Post # 1
So I don’t care about guest books at all. I never know what to write in them, so I usually just end up writing “congrats! <3 Greenleafmountian”. I know if I had one I would never ever look at it again. Most of the ones I’ve seen I don’t like the look of, and I don’t have the time or energy left to try to diy something more creative.
But I know some people love guest books. That’s cool, more power to them. I don’t want to offend any guest book loving guests by not having one. If you are one of these people who loves guest books, how would you feel if you went to a wedding that didn’t have one?
Post # 3
We aren’t using one. I really just have no desire to have one. I rarely ever write anything in them anyway. I don’t think guests will be offended, at least they shouldn’t be.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say that I love guest books per say, but I think they’re fun. Like you, I don’t like the look of traditional guest books and would never just look at a list of signatures, but there are some things you can do to make it a little different that don’t require much time or effort. I made a photobook with our engagement photos for people to sign as our guest book. Then it is more like a photo album with messages – and these are really quick and easy to put together online. Or you could have people sign a photo mat and then put one of your wedding photos in it and hang it in your home. Again, all you have to do is purchase a mat – little time and effort required.
You will have some guests who will look for a guest book so these options (or something similar) would provide them something. Plus, you may think now that you don’t want something, but when you’re older, you may wish that you had something from your wedding to look back at. Wouldn’t want to regret not having anything when there are some quick and simple options.
Post # 5
We have a guest book for address and then a “Wishing Well” for people to write wishes on a butterfly and then put it in the well. They can do either, both, or none. I’m not having someone go around and pester people to sign anything.
Post # 6
I’m of the mind that- its your wedding so you don’t HAVE to have anything. If you’re not into it, don’t do it. That’s a lil extra money in your pocket! We’re doing one, but I’m not entirely sure why….
Post # 7
i don’t think i’d have one, except the photographer automatically includes one made with our engagement pics in the package we wanted anyway! i’ve honestly never even noticed the guest book at other people’s weddings though…either they didn’t have one, or i just didn’t sign it…oh except 1 wedding where they had a wishing tree type thing…
Post # 8
I don’t think you need one at all! But I voted “other” because I think it’s a nice addition if you think of a creative alterative to the standard guest book. Maybe those photomats or something.
Post # 9
Wow, so that’s an easy decision then! Thanks everyone! I hear what those of you are saying about there being pretty easy alternatives, but the truth is it’s just not my style. I never bothered to get my yearbooks signed in high school either 😉
Post # 10
It’s not required so if you don’t want one, don’t get one. Your older traditional guests may miss it but most won’t. Especially since guestbooks tend to be a waste of money with just one page out of 50 being used for a 50-200 guest count while the rest is unused and it gets tossed in a box which is never looked at again.
Post # 11
I almost never notice the guestbook at a wedding, so if you don’t want one, I can’t imagine anyone would notice or be offended. When there is not guestbook, I’m just happy to not have to wait in line to sign it!!
Post # 12
I didn’t want a guest book either. They are ugly, never get signed, and you really never look at them again. I did however, want a place for my guests to tell us how wonderful we are 🙂 What I did, instead, was take dead branches and spray paint them white to make a miniature “tree”. I then took pictures of my husband and me (2x3s) and looped a ribbon through them. I spread those all along the table with sharpies and let our guests sign our pictures and then tie them to the tree. I am scrapbooking them among wedding photos and memorabilia in a place where I know they will get looked at again. It was also right at the entrance of our reception site and with so many pictures hanging, most of our guests left their well wishes. I don’t, however, think any guests will be offended… i doubt they’ll even notice you don’t have one.
Post # 13
My Fiance and I are making the guest book a real momento – we are using our engagement photos and putting into a flush-mount book. We will have blank spaces for our guests to write us (think yearbook style), so that we can have it for the future and look at our engagement photos and read our notes.
If it was just the other guest book, that is blank, I don’t think we would have one at all.
Post # 14
Nope, we’re not having one either. I know lots of people like them… and some people have done some really awesome creative stuff with theirs. But for us, we just don’t see the point. I’m not one to hold onto something like a guest book for years on end anyways. I figure, we’ll already be getting cards from many of our guests, so why do we need a guest book on top of that?
Post # 15
i am pretty sure that the wedding traditions police will storm your reception and void out your marriage if you dont have one.
no just kidding. i dont think i would even notice if you didnt have one.
i got a signature mat like pp stated no one has to feel obligated or feel awkward for not knowing what to write.
Post # 16
We are doing a photo signature mat. Other ideas are a photobook. or you could do a wish jar/tree if you want people to write little well wishes, words of advice etc…
But if none of that appeals, just forget the guestbook!