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Do I have to have a MOH?

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    pinkginger    8/14/2010  

    I'm only have my bestfriend and only sister in my bridal party. I really don't want to pick one of them to be my MOH. I think I'll make the duties clear but do I really have to pick?

    Anyone else have this problem?

     
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    ccranetobe    August 14, 2010  

    You dont have to have any if you dont want too! its just a title.. Make them both MOH :)

     
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    artbee    February 28, 2010  

    my sister was in a wedding with around 5 girls in it with no moh, and it made it difficult because nobody was in charge for anything. but with only two girls, i don't see how that would be a problem.

     
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    cvbee    August 13, 2010   canada

    My aunt did this with her 3 best friends.  But in the end she had to pick only one of them to sign the paper and my Mom says that makes that one the MOH. 

    The 3 friends worked soooo well together and I loved the speech they made togther.

     
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    jpatterson7    June 4, 2011   Vancouver

    I think it's totally fine with smaller wedding parties with 2 or 3 people because you can assign roles to everyone and it will work out fine. I am in a wedding party with 7 bridesmaids and no one is the MOH. I feel its chaotic, but that's just because I am super organized and prefer to be in the loop with what's going on and I normally don't mind taking charge but i don't like to be seen as the bossy one.

    In order to not choose between them for roles during the wedding, maybe you could have a family member sign as your witness instead of choosing one person to sign. If they want to do a speech, maybe let them do it together. I guess it depennds on what you feel would set apart the MOH from a BM and just avoid giving roles that distinguish it that way. Regardless I am sure it will work out!!!

     
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    lisaberry    October 1, 2010   central PA

    I have three bridesmaids, and no maid of honor. They'll all work together, and I think it will be fine. My BMs are all my former college roommates though, so we've all known each other for years. If your BMs don't know each other, you might have some extra organizing to do.

    I don't have a MOH because I didn't want to pick between them. I thought about doing two MOHs, but that would be weird for the third girl. so, none!

     
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    pinkginger    8/14/2010  

    It's good to know that I'm not the only one. I just don't know who will stand right next to me and hold my bouquet.  Wouldn't that make that person the MOH?

     
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    jenbrandner    Aug 7, 2010   Wisconsin

    The only clear-cut difference between the MOH and the other BM's is that the MOH stands closest to you at the ceremony.  Other than that, it's just a title (unless the bride chooses to bestow extra responsibilities to the MOH).  If you have wedding programs, just list them both as bridesmaids.

     
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    jenbrandner    Aug 7, 2010   Wisconsin

    Maybe you can flip a coin to see who will stand closer to you at the ceremony.  And the other girl can be the one to toast you at the reception.  :)

     
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    lkbphmd    August 7, 2010   MN (ceremony in Omaha, NE)

    I'm having 3 people stand up for me and I'm not designating anyone as MOH.  I've asked each to do something different so that they understand their roles, especially since they live in three different states.  I picked the least dramatic person to stand next to me.

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    I've been to weddings with several bridesmaids and no MOH.  It isn't necessary at all.  They all just pitched in equally.

     
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    bennettarmys    July 18, 2010   PA

    I was in the same boat and I just picked my sister and my friend understood.

     

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