Post # 1
Hi Everyone!<br />I’m new here – from Australia! Just got engaged the other month so thought I should pop in here after doing some wedding thinking.
Plans are to be non traditional and have an extremely quiet wedding. We already have 2 children and a house so a wedding for us is just a ceremony so we can say we’re married.
Plans are: To be married in the city hall, only close family (as in mum, dad, sisters, brothers), I will wear something simple but nice (not necessarily white), just a relaxed afternoon followed by a picnic, bbq or maybe eat out somewhere.
My main question is: Do females have to wear wedding rings? I’m not a jewellery person. We joke my partner has more jewellery than me – although it’s probably true. I don’t have an engagement ring and I can only imagine how a ring would get in the way of caring for our 2 young boys (1 and 2.5). I don’t even wear a watch for fear of scratching them, or getting covered in you know what! If I had a ring for ‘later’ I honestly could not see myself wearing it. Has anyone ever not exchanged rings in a ceremony? Will I look stupid for not wearing one? People automatically think I’m married anyway as we already have two kids – and I don’t wear any jewellery…
Thanks for reading the mini essay!
Post # 2
- Wedding: June 2014 - EDD Aug '15
Of course not, do whatever you like! You could get matching watches, tattoos, or maybe nothing at all!! Whatever makes you happy, who cares what other people think?
Post # 3
i’ve never been to a wedding where the couple didn’t exchange rings, but i know several married people who rarely (if ever) wear their wedding rings. my cousin is horrible with jewelry, so she got a cheap wedding band that can be replaced fairly easily if she loses it or whatever.
do whatever works for you guys 🙂
Post # 4
Definitely no need! You do whatever you feel like doing to be married. If that literally just means signing the papers, then that’s it!
If you’re not into jewelery, why not exchange ornaments or hanging pictures or something for the house that you can look at every day and remember your wedding day by? Or even just have a print of your vows framed or something? Hell, you can even just exchange a single rose on the day if that’s what you want!
Post # 5
You don’t need one! So long as your fiance is cool with you not wearing a ring, there’s no reason that you need to wear one. I’m married but only wear one ring, because I prefer the way that looks and didn’t see the point in spending money on another ring after I got one when we got engaged. Hasn’t been problematic at all.
Post # 6
You ladies have such great ideas! Love the rose idea or exchanging something keepsakey.
I’m not changing my last name either so some people are saying WHY are you getting married? I keep trying to tell them that though changing your last name, rings, wedding etc. are lovely a marriage is about love! I wish people could see that.
Post # 7
my parents in law exchanged watches on their wedding day (back in 1975) and I have only seen my mother-in-law’s watch in a jewelry box (my husband has never seen her wear it over 30+ years). She is a teacher so to make your life easier as a teacher, or a nurse or other job that doesn’t allow jewelry like that it might be easier to not bother. I have never seen my father-in-law’s matching silver watch. Recently my father-in-law has worn a wedding band, but has never worn in previous years. My husband thinks its a new ring that he must have gotten to commerate an anniversary.
So if you get something because you think you’re supposed to have something it might just sit a jewelry box for 40 years, but if you get something that you like and has meaning for you, when you actually want it then perhaps you’ll wear it even if you hadn’t for 40 years.
Post # 8
Aw the watch idea is so old school and romantic… Might suggest it tonight to see how we could fit it into the ceremony. ThankyoU!