Post # 1
We have a slight problem. I have one Aunt who’s near impossible to get ahold of. She does not have email, an answering machine, and rarely answers her phone.
I don’t know the last name of her kids. Her daughter has a son, and I don’t know what his last name is. She is not married and has a common law boyfriend who I never met.
There are a few other relatives that I don’t know the last name of, mainly those who have married – I don’t know if they changed their name or not.
I am wondering if I need to include last names on the Seating Chart. We have a number of people with the same name, but to avoid confusion we were thinking of naming couples as a couple and singles as single.
John & Jane
George & Roxanne
But then I thought maybe this makes the singles look bad.
We have about 8 people with a really common name, so we thought it might be hard to tell which was which. Unless we included last initials for those people wherever possible.
Not sure what to do.
Post # 3
Maybe you could call a family member who might know…and it wouldn’t be to awkward to ask.lol.
Or just do first names for everyone and the common names add the last name.
I don’t think it would look bad to “singles” at all. They know they’re “single” lol
And that’s my 2cents:)
Post # 4
@MrsGatito: How are you sending their invitations? If you don’t even know their last names, why are they even invited to the wedding?? But still…you should have their names from your invitiations. If not, don’t your parents know?
Post # 5
@peachacid: Good point! How did you invite them?
i would just assume they both go by the husband’s last name. Even if they don’t, they’ll know who that is referring to so they can’t be confused by the seating chart.
Post # 6
@peachacid: For invitations for couples of two we put “John & Jane” on the envelope. For my aunt’s family we addressed her name on the outside envelope and on the inner envelope put the first names of her family. (This was at her request).
Another reason I don’t know all the last names is because some people who were given a generic “Guest” did not include their guests last name when RSVPing.
I realize it’s weird. I have an extremely large family and decided not to exclude anyone. All aunts and uncles were invited, regardless how well I know them. (Or my parents for that matter)
Post # 7
I realize this probably wasn’t proper ettiquette how I addressed the invitations, but our crowd of people would have thought it was weird to address the invitation as “Mr & Mrs” or along those lines.
I’ve never once received an invitation as formal as that, I just followed the same “ettiquette” that I’ve seem my family use.
Post # 8
@MrsGatito: People typically find their name using their last name…since it’s normally organized by name and not table number. It takes forever to find your name when it’s organized by table number, I’ve been to a wedding that did that.
Also, what type of meal are you having?
Post # 9
@IzzyBear: Hmmm. I’ve never been to a wedding where it was organized by name, just table number. I didn’t know it was done differently.
We are having a sit down meal, a choice between two entrees.
There will be 15 tables too, if that helps at all.
Post # 10
@MrsGatito: it’s just a little easier for the guests to find their names if it’s in alphabetical order.
Will your guests be choosing their meals beforehand or at the wedding? I ask because if they choose before the wedding, most caterers prefer you to have place cards that indicate which entree each guest chose. Therefore, each guest must have an individual place card.
Post # 11
@IzzyBear: Yes we have place cards already made up for everyone with their meal choice on it. I have a feeling you’re going to suggest putting their table numbers on the cards as well..but they’re already made. 🙁
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think that’s fine as long as you don’t have doubles of the same name.
We did first name and first letter of last name, just because I didn’t feel like writing everything out (and the wedding had a laid-back vibe so it worked)
Post # 13
@MrsGatito: yeah, that’s where I was headed. Are the cards folded (tent style)? You could add the table # to the inside of the card
Post # 14
I was at a wedding a couple of weeks ago where they didn’t put last names on the seating chart and we ended up with not enough seats at our table. We couldn’t figure out why, until we realized that the “Adam & Guest” had brought two different couples to our table….the other Adam was listed at a different table with his girlfriends name, but he just went with the first Adam he saw. Neither one would move to another table – it was pretty uncomfortable!
Post # 15
I have 4 girls names Megan on my guest list, they all spell their names differently (Meghan, Meagan, Meghann, Meighan) and 2 of them are married to Jason’s. Although there are different spellings I think it would be asking for trouble to now include last names. I also have 3 Michelles…
Post # 16
@happyheidi1984: We won’t have anyone labelled as “John & Guest”, all “Guests” will have a name so I don’t think that should happen. Luckily, we have no two couples with the same names.
@IzzyBear: I already have a lot going on with the cards. You don’t think this would be too much?