(Closed) Do I have to invite….

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5967 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Nope, wedding invites are not tit for tat, feel no shame about excluding anyone you hardly know from your intimate wedding!

Post # 4
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Summer-Bride: You don’t have to invite them just because you went to their daughter’s wedding.

You can:

  • invite just the parents if you’re having an adults only reception and their kids are under your cutoff age (I know this doesn’t apply to this situation but you might have other potential guests whom this applies to)
  • invite the parents if their kids are adults (since they’re married, each kid and their spouse is their own social unit, and the parents return to being a 2 person social unit)
  • invite the parents, the daughter and her husband and not the son and his wife, since they are three separate social units. The son and his wife might be a little upset about this, but they’re friends not family so you really don’t have to do all or nothing.

You can’t:

  • Invite half of a couple (the neighbor and not his wife, the neighbors and their son and daughter but not their spouses ect.). Married couples, engaged couples, and couples who are living together have to be invited together. It is a nice gesture to invite boyfriends/girlfriends or allow plus ones for guests who haven’t been in a relationship long, but its not required.

Post # 5
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t know what “etiquitte” says, but I would not feel obligated to invite them. They wanted a large wedding, so they invited many of their social circles. You choose to have a small wedding, allowing you to only invite your closest circle of friends/family. I would just talk to the parents about it, and mention that “we really are looking forward to haveing a very small, intimate wedding. I feel badly becasue we do not have enough room to invite your son and daughter”. At least they will know WHY you are not inviting them.

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