(Closed) Do I have to invite?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I have to invite people if I asked for their mailing addresses?
    Yes : (5 votes)
    36 %
    No : (9 votes)
    64 %
  • Post # 3
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    3170 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I had this exact problem. I felt awful about not inviting them but I really didn’t have a choice. You have to do whats right for you, don’t go over budget to please someone.

    Post # 4
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    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    When I asked for a few address (without mentioning the reason and near the holidays so I could claim holiday cards as the reason if need be) I still got back responses from one or two saying they were excited to come to the wedding.  I think that even though you did not send a STD asking them to hold the date, they know why they were asked and will be hurt to not be invited to the actual wedding.  So, before you make a decision, I would suggest you carefully weigh how much it matters to you to upset those folks by not inviting them in the end with the demands of your budget.  Myself, I’d suggest downsizing in other areas where you can instead.  (This is why we did not send STDs and did not ask for addresses until we were certain on the guest list.)

    Post # 5
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    3 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    You could just as easily have been asking for an address so you could send an announcement after the wedding.  I don’t think you are now required to invite them, but you might consider sending announcements.

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