Post # 1
Over the last year that I’ve been engaged, I’ve been building up our guest list on The Knot. We finally need to sit down and go over it because we’re at 210 invites, and we’re planning on 150 guests, so we have to trim a bit.
So, there’s this guy that’s become a thorn in my side on the guest list. He is my FBIL’s best friend. I don’t like him. He acts innaproporiately, gets overly drunk, asked me to join he and his GF in bed once (ew!) and is just a general jerk.
So of course, don’t invite him, right? Well, here’s the problem. My FBIL is getting married a few months after us. My fiance (his only brother) and this guy are both the best man in FBIL’s wedding. (FBIL is the best man in our wedding)
Obviously this guy is going to know when our wedding date is, and is going to be planning stuff for FBIL’s wedding/bachelor party/etc. with my fiance. Do I have to invite him?
Post # 3
I don’t think you are under any obligation to invite him. If your fiance doesn’t mind cutting him off the list then I say he should not get an invite. He sounds kind of icky and I wouldn’t want to invite him either!
Post # 4
Ok, so your FI’s Brother’s Friend?
NO! Too far off the radar, girl. He has ties to your FBIL not your FI.
Does your FI want to invite him? Personally, I can’t imagine he wants you NEAR him seeing as how he invited you to a THREESOME!!! AAAHHHH
Just say no. No, you don’t want him around and he creeps you out ever since he asked you to be in a threesome. I’d say any guy with half a brain would say “OK i understand” to that one.
Post # 5
The only thought I have is whether or not your FI cares if he will be there. To be honest, just bc he’s friends with FBIL doesn’t make him a vital part of your day. So unless FI is insistent over inviting him….just draw a line through his name!
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to invite him at all.
Post # 7
My fiance DOES want to invite him! With a date! Probably the same girl who was all for this little three way as I creeped away awkwardly…
Post # 8
EW EW EW
NO NO NO
Does your FI know about what he asked you? Oh it’s so gross
Post # 9
Yeaaaah…that’s a little gross. I think if FI really wants to invite him you may just need to suck it up, although I agree that kinda sucks. Have you discussed with your FI why he makes you feel so uncomfortable?
Post # 10
Yeah, he knows what happened (we were at a bar, he was there) But honestly, proposition aside, he’s still a major jerk and I wouldn’t want to invite him anyway.
I’m going to talk to my fiance about it…wanted to get some other opinions first. I think his feeling is that since they’re both best man in his brother’s wedding, we should invite him.
Post # 11
Is your FI actually friends with this guy? Or are they just friends by association? If they are friends & would hang out regardless if your FI’s brother is there or not, then I say you have to invite him. We have to remeber this is our FI’s day, just as much as it is ours….and, if your FI truely wants him there, he should be allowed to invite him….(imho) 🙂
Post # 12
THat would be a big fat NO!
Post # 13
I dont think you need to invite him and if you do it would only be out of respect for FBIL. Can you talk to him and see what he thinks? Or talk to your FI about it?
Post # 14
No way do you need to invite him! Don’t think twice about it!
Post # 15
Nope. Nope. Nope. You do not have to invite him.
Post # 16
he is a friend of a family member – he is not your friend. that doesnt put him on the nearest and dearest list so hes a no to the invite