Post # 1
I have 3 first cousins, and we are not at all close. We spent very little time together growing up, and are not close in age. When 2 of the cousins got married, they did destination weddings and did not invite me or my sister. The 3rd cousin is not yet married.
Now, it is my turn to get married. We are having a destination wedding, and are holding several events, so every person is pretty expensive. My dad has made it very clear that he wants me to invite therm. My parents are paying for about a third of the wedding, and my FI and I are paying for the rest.
What do you think, Bees? Do I need to invite them? What would you do?
Post # 3
You certainly don’t have to.
If you decide to go with what your father wants, take solace in that they are probably not going to go.
Would you go to a destination wedding for someone you barely know, even if you are related?
Post # 4
I voted no.
I have 4 1st cousins and am only inviting 2. One is my age, the other 2 years older. The ones not invited are 13 and 10. I’ve seen the 10 year old 3 times in my life.
Post # 5
This is tough and I was in a similar situation. I decided not to invite some first cousins that I am not close to. I voted no.
Post # 6
@Swoo: If you don’t want them there and you’re paying for the majority of your wedding I would not invite them.
Post # 7
well you dont HAVE to. But if your father wants you to i think you should. The chances of them coming are slim though. Since it’s a destination wedding they may not want to have the extra expence since you’re not close.
Post # 8
Nope. If you weren’t invited to your cousin’s weddings and you aren’t close to them, there is no need for them to attend your special day.
I am not inviting one of my SIBLINGS to my vow renewal. He has been cruel and abusive to me all my life. We are estranged from each other, so there is no need for him to attend.
Invite the people you love the most.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the advice! It is a tough one!! 🙂