Post # 1
Sooo my parent’s divorced back 18 years ago. Long story short, my father and I have not been very close since then, and he has re-married since. He had 2 kids with his new wife, and i rarley see them all, maybe once a year IF that. His wife has 3 kids of her own, who are all just over 18, My half sister are 3 and 5, and like i said, i maybe see them once a year. I’m not sure if it would be right to just address the invite to just him and his wife or not? Do i have to include the kids? i just don’t want to hurt his feelings, and i sure don’t know how to even talk to him about it since we talk maye once eery couple months on the phone. Even those conversations are short! (he is a alcoholic if your wondering why we rarley talk) I try to avoid talking to him while he’s drunk so i have to call very early in the morning. We’re paying for the wedding ourselves, and really need to keep a tight guest list. Any thoughts or suggestions would help!
Post # 3
Invite who you want to, it’s YOUR wedding!
Post # 4
@ocbride119: Is it that you don’t like them or that you just don’t have the room/budget. Either way, I would make the excuse of “adult only” and “close family” and make the invite out to your dad and stepmother.
Post # 5
If you are not inviting any children, then of course you don’t have to invite them.
If you just don’t like them much, then I really, really would invite them. I understand you don’t have a great relationship with your father, but these are your siblings, and I don’t see why you should punish them for it.
As far as the older ones…THOSE I would understand leaving off the guest list.
Post # 6
@LuvMySailor: It’s not that i don’t like them, i guess i failed to say i’m going for an “adult only reception”. But i alwasys thought that even when its adults only, that close family like sibilings that are young should be invited. But maybe i’m wrong??
Post # 7
@ocbride119: not if you dont want to ; ) my sister is not invited and my FH brother is not invited as well. we feel that we are paying alot of $$ for our special day and if we feel anyone would not act right or ruin our day in any way they are simply not invited. its a day to share with loved ones close family and friends its not a party lol
Post # 8
yeah, i’m doing adults only, thats why sorry for not explaining that part! 🙂 Thanks i suppose i will just invite my dad and his wife then