- 2 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
My extened family has a beach house and I typically get one or two weekends a year at it. I figured a good way to extend the olive branch to my fiance’s family would be to invite his sisters down for the weekend (and their significant others depending on if they want it to be a girls weekend or a family weekend). I always have a fun time when we hang out but I rarely hang out with them because of the distance (they live 2.5 hrs away). I am currently in Baltimore, my fiance is in Boston (so he would be unable to make it). I envisioned pitching this trip as a siblings weekend because I wanted to keep it within our generation since the our parents generation is in the middle of divorcing and remarrying and I am trying to stay as far away from that drama as possible. The only problem is all the guys (my brother, my Fi, and his brother) are living far enough away temporailiy that none of the will be able to make it. I am concerned that it will come off more as a “girls” outing than a sibling outing and I’m concerned that my MIL will feel offended that she is not invited (even though nobody else from that generation is invited, she tends to take things personally). I realize she is an important woman in my FI’s life but I typically keep her at arms length because it is my philosphy to generally keep very negative/dramatic people as far away as possible. Her and I are very civil and I do enjoy her company in small doses but I have vacationed with her before and it is typically not a fun time because she makes sure things are centered around her. For what its worth my future SIL’s typically are so much more relaxed and friendly when my future MIL is not around. I just need a little perspective here. Is it all right to just invite my future SIL’s or do I need to invite her too?
I am not good with drama. I work mainly with guys since I am in engineering and I was raised with guys so I am sort of new with the subtlies that are involved with close relationships with women and I really don’t want to screw things up with my future in-laws. I want to keep at least a civil relationship with my MIL.