Post # 1
Without making this post too long- here’s a bit of background info. I have a very large family. I am only inviting my maternal family to the wedding (long story and different topic). There are 10 first cousins and about 30 second cousins. Those numbers keep increasing as we go along in terms of all the different types of cousins.
My family is from Costa Rica, and growing up – I was very close with all of these cousins. Every week someone had a party and we all played together. By the time HS came around- people moved and everyone started losing touch.
Now I’m 26 – and I don’t want to invite all of these people! I’m hoping to keep it under 100 people and because of that, I’m making huge cuts in who from my family i’m inviting. I will invite all of my first cousins – and a few second – and I already know that this is going to cause drama but whatever.
My question is this: Two of my cousins got married and they each invited me to their weddings – one was 3 years ago, the other was 2 years ago. Am i obligated to invite them to my wedding? And if so – do I need to invite their siblings as well? (Each cousin has 2 siblings)
Thanks for your help, bees!
Post # 3
@sunkissed19: I would say, you are either inviting that level of family (2nd cousins, or whatever it is) or you aren’t. The only exception I would make is if there are some with whom you have very close relationships, and you are inviting them becausee you are friends, not because they are family. But, no, you don’t have to invite them.
Post # 4
You don’t have to invite them if you don’t want to, but if you do then I think you do need to invite their spouses and their siblings.
Post # 5
Yes, I think you should invite those 2 cousins who invited you to their weddings. 2 or 3 years isn’t that long ago. I think would be rude not to include them. No, I don’t think you need to invite their siblings, unless your’e still close with them.
I too have a ton of 2nd cousins. I’m not inviting all of them. Most are much older than me and we never see eachother or talk anymore. I’m only inviting the 5 that I see or talk to fairly regularly.
Post # 6
@snd485: thank you. the thing is, i’m not really close with these girls! but i feel in my gut that i should still invite them; i guess i have to listen to that.
Post # 7
@sunkissed19: People have different size weddings. Just bc you made the cut for theirs doesn’t mean they AUTOMATICALLY made the cut for yours. A high school friend I haven’t really kept in touch with since hs grad (ten years ago) invited me to their 200 person wedding last year. When we get married in ~2 with a much smaller guest list, they prob won’t make the cut.
I hear you with all the family tho- I have a huge extended family and dread having to work that part out! Good luck!