Do I have to pay for the bridesmaids makeup?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Kitt0nMitt0ns:  If you feel you cannot afford it, talk to your maid of honor and maybe even the whole bunch! Maybe they wouldn’t mind splitting it with you. Or maybe a couple of them are great at make-up and can do everyone’s make-up. Do you have a friend or family member who’s good at make-up? I don’t think guests will notice if their make-up is professionally done or not, as long as everyone wears some make-up! 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If you are demanding they get their makeup done by a professional, then you should pay for it, yes. A lot of people like to do their open makeup, though, and are quite good at it. If they want to get their makeup professionally done (but you haven’t told them they have to) then you don’t need to pick up the tab.

You can give them the option: “You are all welcome to do your own makeup or have it professionally done by MAKEUP PERSON if you want. It costs $X for makeup – let me know if you’d like it done so I can let PERSON know how many to expect.”

Post # 5
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132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Kitt0nMitt0ns:  I’m not paying for my girls’ make-up, but I made it clear that it was entirely optionial if they wanted to get it done or not, but I didn’t expect it.  If you are wanting/expecting/requiring all of them to get their make-up done, then I would pay for it.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Your wedding = you pay. The makeup is for your benefit, not for theirs.  Even if you are not insisting they get their makeup done, they would not have incurred that cost if it weren’t for your wedding, therefore you should pay even if you make it optional.

You may be able to get a better rate from your local beauty academy, although you’d get probably one senior makeup artist and a trainee/student.

 

Post # 7
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8593 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

If you require it to be professionally done you need to pay.  If they are fine to do their own I don’t think you need to.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would say you will have a professional make up artist there available for them, if they want to pay for their makeup to be done. As long as you aren’t making them get it done, you don’t have to pay for it if you can’t afford to do so. Then they have the option to do it themselves for free or pay if they choose.

Post # 10
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Sea_Ashley:  This. I gave my girls this option, as well. They all chose to have their hair done, but do their makeup themselves.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I agree that it comes down to whether you are requiring it or not. As for getting yours done professionally while they do their own, I don’t think it’s tacky. You are the bride after all, I don’t think they would begrudge you treating yourself to this.

Post # 12
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310 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I say no you don’t need to. You’re already buying them a gift probably and they agreed to be in the wedding party. They also of course have a choice to do it themselves to save money or find someone to do it. A wedding is expensive enough for the both of you  ( bride and groom ). I think they should understand. Plus they’ll be getting food and drinks for free from you on your big day !!

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I didn’t require them to get it done, so I didn’t pay. They had the choice, and all chose to get it done anyways.  I wasn’t planning on paying for hair either and all offered to pay me, but at the end of the day I paid.

Post # 14
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59 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Kitt0nMitt0ns:  It isn’t at all tacky, regardless of the formality of the wedding. Your guests probably won’t even notice their makeup, let alone have any opinions about who put it on. They’ll be looking at you! Wink

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@nmsa:  “You can give them the option: “You are all welcome to do your own makeup or have it professionally done by MAKEUP PERSON if you want. It costs $X for makeup – let me know if you’d like it done so I can let PERSON know how many to expect.”

Exactly this. That’s literally the exact wording I used for my bridesmaids.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@Kitt0nMitt0ns:  if you want their makeup to look a certain way then you should pay for it. However I’m sure you all can go without a pro makeup artist. Unless every single one of you sucks at applying makeup, which is doubtful, DIY should be fine. 

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