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No, you definitely don't have to read it. I'd just give it back and say it wasn't really up your alley. Maybe say you were looking for a novel to read or something like that.
I would say no you dont have to. I'm not sure how you feel about telling her point blank that it was far to religious for you. Personally I dont mind telling people that I dont believe in god. Thats how I was raised.
As far as what to read a lot of the bee's have recomended his needs her needs. I bought it and havent really gotten much time to read but it seems far out dated IMO. It talks about how important sex is to a man. BUT in my relationship ( and many that I know) sex is more important to the girl then the man
I would just say you found it interesting but couldn't really relate to it, since you're not really a religious person. Maybe pick one aspect of the book that you did like, and mention that in conversation, so the boss knows you at least gave it a shot.
1. No, you don't have to read the book. If she asks you what you thought, just saying something like, "There were some interesting ideas that I hadn't considered before." and if she presses you for specifics, stay towards the beginning of the book that you read and if she asks about a particular passage just say something like "Yeah, it was an interesting point and I'm still digesting the whole book" or something that kinda gets you off the hook without giving a serious opinion.
2. I just finished "For Better" by Tara Parker-Pope which goes into married life and children from a very scientific approach. You would probably like it as there isn't any mention of God (that I recall).
Lol @ awkward! Its a lil awkward!
I'm not comfortable telling her that religion just isn't my thing. I'm really private about it. Religion is so polarizing, I'd rather not discuss it and make things tense. It may not turn out that way, but ya never know!
If need be I'll respond with something generic like hilsy85 & MissKatelyn mentioned. Hopefully it'll work! I thought about just waiting a week and putting the book on her desk when she's not there but that's so silly. She's still gonna follow up on it.
All I wanted was a nice novel! :oP
Lol, my in laws gave me a book for Christmas called "Growing Closer to God," even though they know I am agnostic. Just say thanks and give it back.
Get a good Jane Austen and steer clear of lit convos with her! lol
I'm in the middle of reading 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last by Linda Bloom and her husband.
It's an easy read as the chapters focus on one "lesson" or mantra at a time. It's based on their personal marriage and clients' relationships. You can also skip around chapters which is great for the way I read. It's one of those books I will keep around and reference when marriage gets rough (cause that happens!) or I need a reminder about my relationship. I'd certainly recommend it!
@mrsv2be- that's crazy awkward! I would actually be a little offended, what was your reaction to receiving that book?
@something.blue- Thanks! I think I'll go check that book out.
It was really inappropriate of her to give you a religious book in the workplace. Also, given that she's your friends' boss, I'm assuming she ranks higher than you, which makes it worse. She's in a position of power and is basically using that power to push her beliefs on subordinates, who might feel they have to feign agreement with her in order to keep their jobs. Totally not ok.
I like Miss Katelyn's idea for handling it, since you don't want to tell her why you don't want to read it.
@madcat- I see why you'd think that but I don't think she meant it that way. She's actually a really nice woman and we've always been friendly enough. I didn't take it as her trying to force religion, I just think it was more about her not thinking about it at all. She liked the book, she offered it to me, not considering my religious affiliation. She's also not technically my superior, she's my friends. Ah well. Read any good novels lately? :)
I would wait a week, flip through the book, pick something you can relate to, or something you think is nice, give it back to her, and say “I liked what they said in Chapter 4 about x, y, z” and leave it at that. Move on quickly by just saying thank you again, and changing the subject.
As for book recommendations, what sorts of books do you like – what are you looking for? :)
@gabrielleelise- I'm gonna do that. I'll find like 3 bullets to work with and hope she thinks I read it. I have varied interests when it comes to books. I love cultural stuff. I also like classics, autobiographical works. I like fiction if there's at least a little basis in fact (I don't like sci-fi). And I definitely don't like murder mysteries (I deal with that stuff everyday, in real life, no need for it in text too) or cheesy romance stuff.
@jennifer_espos: That's good to hear! I think a lot of people just don't even think about whether other people share their views, at least when their view is the majority view. Those of us who are not religious tend to think more about it - or at least I do!
Hmm, good novels...do you like mysteries? I am a big fan of Lisa Gardner's books.
I'm passive, so I would just kind of be like "oh yeah, thanks for that mumble mumble mmmmn cake...oh yes, that thing they said on page 4? mmn yarfle darfle... oooh gotta run."
That approach may not work for you though...
@jennifer_espos: Making a bullet list is always my go-to in situations like this. hope it works out (I'm sure it will!). Here's some of my favorite books that are no sci-f, cheesy romance (I don't like that either, so that was easy to leave off the list lol) or too much violence:
Shadow of the Wind by Carlos Ruiz Zafon (The Angel's Game is the followup)
Jonathan Strange & Mr. Norell by Susana Clark
I think Sherlock Holmes novels by Sir Arthur Conan Doyle are always fun, and are pretty short so you can get through them pretty quickly. Nicholas Myers has written a couple of Sherlock Holmes novels as well
I Capture the Castle by Dodi Smith (really good, light and fun)
Hope you find a good book! :)
And some good books that I have read recently :)
The Lacuna, Barbara Kingsolver (a few years old, but I always enjoy her books)
The Man from Beijing, Henning Mankell (parts of it were a bit..ehh, but if you like crime fiction his Wallander series is good. And it's Swedish but doesn't have the same hype as Steig Larsson) EDIT I just saw that you don't like crime fiction, so ignore.
We Are All Made of Glue, Marina Lewycka (I also really love A Short History of Tractors in Ukrainian, and the other one about caravans and strawberry picking, the name of which I cannot recall)
High Fidelity, Nick Hornby (it's hilarious, and if you've seen the movie it will alllll make sense)
Love in a Cold Climate, Nancy Mitford (old, but good. crazy British people...)
I won't start on my current list of Irish chick lit.. too embarrassing, hah.
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This question is twofold. But let me start off by saying this is not meant to offend anyone!
I am friends with a few people in one department in my office. I was talking to them about wanting a good book to read. The next day their boss, who was in on the convo, hands me a book. Its titled "Secrets to a Successful Marriage" or something like that. I was excited to read it, that was really nice of her to let me borrow it! That night I began reading it.....
Here's the thing: its more about religion than marriage. I understand that God is very present in some peoples lives and thus marriages, but I choose not to practice any formal religion. I like to believe that a successful marriage isn't based on your adherence to God's will, which is kinda what I took from the beginning of the book. But more about being a loving, kind, supportive companion- in a nutshell. I'm not saying its wrong to believe that god has a large role in a marriage. Again this isn't meant to be judgemental or offensive. But I just cannot finish this book.
So, do I have to?! (said like a wimpering little girl who just got told she needs to finish her veggies). Their boss will inevitably ask me what I thought of the book. And I imagine she might even want to discuss some points. Yikes. I'm not comfortable telling her that she and I have differing believe systems. I don't want it to be awkward.
The funny (as in not really funny) part is that my husband is kinda friends with her and her husband. He used to work with them for years and he's been trying to set up double dates for awhile now. Awkward!
Oh, I said it was a two fold question: 1. Do I have to read this book? 2. Any good book recommendations? :)