Do I HAVE to send out Save The Dates?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I send out a STD?
    Yes : (9 votes)
    16 %
    No : (49 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 3
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Not necessarily. If you are trying to save money then consider sending out invites earlier so they can make preparations ahead of time. You could even send save the dates to a few people who you think would really benefit from it.

    Post # 4
    7286 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Do people have to travel far, out of town or desination wedding, and if so is the area where the wedding being held expensive? I think making sure everyone knows the exact details in those cases is good.

    If not then there is no need.


    Post # 5
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Save The Dates are a more recent trend, are they not? I don’t think they are ever really required.

    Post # 6
    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Our parents/aunts/uncles/grandparents didn’t have them- yet they still managed to have weddings. 

    I’m not doing it. I already text’d the few out of towners I’m inviting with the date. 

    Post # 7
    1175 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @linnylou_88:  I am having a very small DW, and we are not doing STD.  I don’t think it is necessary, STD are fairly new trend.  People have made it to weddings for years without them.  You should be fine without them, just send your invitations out a little bit earlier.


    Post # 8
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @linnylou_88:  I’m to sending them. So I don’t think you have to. 

    Post # 9
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I always suggest NOT sending a Save The Date!

    You are required to invite anyone who got one to the wedding… leading to a lot less flexibilty down the line if you decide not to invite so many people.

    Post # 10
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    STDs are more of a recent, cutesy trend. Invitations on their own are just fine, as long as they are sent out within a reasonable amount of time (not a week before the wedding)! 

    Post # 11
    448 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I didn’t, I figured they were a waste of time and money since everyone who was coming was local (besides his parents) and already knew when the wedding was.

    Post # 12
    1174 posts
    Bumble bee

    Absolutely not. It nights depend where you’re from but most people I know had no idea what save the dates were. Lol

    Post # 13
    9859 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m sending them because I want to – I think they’re fun but I’m also the type of person who sends (and makes) Christmas Cards, Birthday cards, and cards for whatever reason just because I love mail.

    Post # 14
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I think as long as your OOT guests have heard of your wedding plan through 1 way or another, STD is not necessary.

     For me, I sent STD email to my OOT guests. That way, I could personalize my emails and add any information I thought might be important to them.

    Post # 15
    4827 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

    I hear one bride say because we are all so collected these days technologically, you can easily send an informal STD.

    Save Your Money!

    Post # 16
    724 posts
    Busy bee

    Save the Dates are frivolous and whenever I get one they go straight in the trash. Once I have an invitation in hand, then I’ll consider your event in my plans. Simple as that!

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