Post # 1
Im getting married on a Sunday in October next year. A few people are coming from Israel but they will know well in advance when the wedding is so they can arrange flights (FI will be visiting them in January).
Other than that, most of the people coming are close family and will hear of the wedding date through FMIL.
Do I really have to send a Save The Date? Although I’d be making them myself, it is still the added expense of supplies and postage.
Post # 3
Not necessarily. If you are trying to save money then consider sending out invites earlier so they can make preparations ahead of time. You could even send save the dates to a few people who you think would really benefit from it.
Post # 4
Do people have to travel far, out of town or desination wedding, and if so is the area where the wedding being held expensive? I think making sure everyone knows the exact details in those cases is good.
If not then there is no need.
Post # 5
Save The Dates are a more recent trend, are they not? I don’t think they are ever really required.
Post # 6
Our parents/aunts/uncles/grandparents didn’t have them- yet they still managed to have weddings.
I’m not doing it. I already text’d the few out of towners I’m inviting with the date.
Post # 7
@linnylou_88: I am having a very small DW, and we are not doing STD. I don’t think it is necessary, STD are fairly new trend. People have made it to weddings for years without them. You should be fine without them, just send your invitations out a little bit earlier.
Post # 8
@linnylou_88: I’m to sending them. So I don’t think you have to.
Post # 9
I always suggest NOT sending a Save The Date!
You are required to invite anyone who got one to the wedding… leading to a lot less flexibilty down the line if you decide not to invite so many people.
Post # 10
STDs are more of a recent, cutesy trend. Invitations on their own are just fine, as long as they are sent out within a reasonable amount of time (not a week before the wedding)!
Post # 11
I didn’t, I figured they were a waste of time and money since everyone who was coming was local (besides his parents) and already knew when the wedding was.
Post # 12
Absolutely not. It nights depend where you’re from but most people I know had no idea what save the dates were. Lol
Post # 13
I’m sending them because I want to – I think they’re fun but I’m also the type of person who sends (and makes) Christmas Cards, Birthday cards, and cards for whatever reason just because I love mail.
Post # 14
I think as long as your OOT guests have heard of your wedding plan through 1 way or another, STD is not necessary.
For me, I sent STD email to my OOT guests. That way, I could personalize my emails and add any information I thought might be important to them.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I hear one bride say because we are all so collected these days technologically, you can easily send an informal STD.
Save Your Money!
Post # 16
Save the Dates are frivolous and whenever I get one they go straight in the trash. Once I have an invitation in hand, then I’ll consider your event in my plans. Simple as that!