Do I have to send save the dates?

posted 3 years ago in October 2014
Post # 3
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Newbee

I would send save the dates. You can send them out fairly cheap (Under $1 each). It gives people a heads up so they dont double book your wedding night. Also good for out of towners to make plans in advance… It’s a good idea…especially if you want people to show up!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Danner:  Many things which the wedding industry tell you to do, are not required. Save The Dates certainly fall into this category. 

If you don’t send STDs, the worst that can happen is (a) travelling guests may not have time to make arrangements, and/or (b) guests might have another function (e.g. another wedding) on the same date and so might miss your wedding.

You can avoid both of these simply by telling all the most important guests, and any travelling guests, of your wedding date by word of mouth. That’s what we did.

Or you can send your invitations out really early, there’s nothing wrong with that. Though some of the guests less close to you (e.g. that cousin you see once a year) might put it away and forget to reply, there’s no real harm done if that cousin forgets to reply and misses your wedding. Anyone who really cares about your wedding will remember the invitation.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Danner:  Honestly I think they are a waste of time and money.  I’m not doing them.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Save the dates are not a requirement. We are opting to send them only to out of town guests to give them extra time to plan/make arrangments to come. If you already broke the bank, you do not have to. You could consider an electronic save the date option, similar to an e-vite, to save on the costs. If you have guests coming from elsewhere, just make sure they have a heads up earlier than the invite. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I didn’t want to spend money on them either so I did email instead.  You can still make it fancy (just save whatever you create as an image on your computer and insert, not attach, it in the email).  I just wanted to make sure all the out of towners knew of the date and had the link to our wedding website for the hotel block info.  Older relatives without email were told by word of mouth, obviously.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church Ceremony & Restaurant/Bed & Breakfast Reception

We emailed ours and included an RSVP link on our website that included the question of whether or not they wanted us to send them an invitation, email them an invitation in a couple months, or email them a reminder a week before the wedding with driving directions. So far it’s been a big hit! It was also a lot cheaper since most of the people we talked to said they’d prefer us to email them and save a tree. 

We used greenvelope. It’s a paid service (for save the dates) but has a really great tracking system! 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If you are expecting a lot of out of towners, I would send them STDs sometime soon!  You can email them or send a card.  We got ours at Vistaprint for I think 50 cents each.  You don’t have to send them to everyone, but I would send to those traveling far.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Danner:  they aren’t necessary. We are only sending them to out of town friends, who will have to make travel arrangements, amd even then we are doing it online so it’s free!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Yeah, out of towners that need to make arrangements and if it’s a day that people need to take time off for (mine is on a Friday so I sent save the dates). Otherwise I wouldn’t worry about it!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I did not bother with save the dates.  That’s sort of one of those things that I see as an industry money-maker.  No offense to those who send them and love them-just was not important to me. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

We didnt. Everyone knew plenty in advance when our wedding was and we sent our invitations out about 4 months before! I went to 5 weddings last year and didn’t get one save the date. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

We didn’t and I do NOT regret it. The most important people knew the date. If anything, it cuts down on not-so-close guests which saves you money.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I sent Save the Dates, but I don’t think they’re necessary.  They didn’t even exist 20ish years ago!  I’ve had so many people – basically everyone who is not my generation – shocked and confused to get them (I’m the first in my family of my generation getting married).  Like everyone said, though, give the out-of-towners a heads up!

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