(Closed) Do I have to show up to the day-after brunch on time?

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Is there any way to make it later? When I think "brunch" I think 11-1. That’s just what brunch is to me – not breakfast, not lunch. That’s the point of calling it brunch. It still sucks to have to get up (I hear you about the morning-after wedding feeling), but you definitely have to be there the whole time as people will be coming to seeyou and say their goodbyes after the wedding. It would be rude to your guests (and esp to FILs) if you weren’t present the whole time. I think it may be worth mentioning to them, though, that you and FI will be exhausted after your wedding day and could use some much-needed rest after the wedding.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

Oh my! That is early! Your family sounds like mine where weddings tend to go late into the night and early morning…lol! Is there any way they could move the time to a bit later? Maybe approach them with the idea that your guests will be exhausted (so it doesn’t seem like it’s you not wanting to get up so early)…and well, if it’s brunch, then people would have an expectation of it beginning a bit later than breakfast per se.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I agree with Kittyachi that it would look bad if you weren’t there on time….sigh….is there any way you could spread through word-of-mouth to have people show up at perhaps 10am instead of 9am? My only other advice is to schedule a wake-up call so you have time to get ready and lots of coffee.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Ouch. Well I think then you either need to suck it up and be there at 9 (looking however you look) or come up with an excuse for being late – traffic? alarm clock didn’t go off? How many of your guests are really going to want to be there at 9 anyway? Ugh. Note to self: tell FILs I don’t get up before 11!

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

wow thats a pretty early brunch, that sounds more like a breakfast! i do agree with some of the others that you do need to be there on time, it would be very rude since yall are the guests of honor. if it is that early, just suck it up and keep telling yourself that you have you honeymoon to sleep in! i would definitely try having the time moved up, though!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That’s tough!!  Our brunch after the wedding started at 10:30am.  We showed up at 10:45, and there were already a lot of people waiting for us.  (Oops!)  I’d really do your best to get there as close to 9:00 as possible.  It’s only one morning, so I’m sure you can struggle through and make it happen!  I bet that once you get there, you’ll be so happy about seeing everybody that you won’t feel so tired.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

Too early for this night owl! I would just take the advice of the other girls and see if it could be pushed back (it IS a BRUNCH after all!). Hope it all works out!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

I agree with other posters that you should be as on time as possible, unless you can somehow arrange a mini "grand entrance" type event that your guests are expecting about 9:30 or 9:45. Or just show up that late if you don’t mind a little ribbing — people will understand, but they will make fun.

Both after-wedding brunches I’ve been to the bride and groom were VERY late. One of them we had been hanging around for a good hour waiting and the groom’s parents finally called them… apparently the bride was JUST getting into the shower, and she is well known among her family and friends for being a very long shower taker — she had waist length hair at the time! The other, I don’t know. The reception and brunch took place in the same hotel we all stayed in, so they were just inconsiderate. It was pretty annoying both times, but if it’s mostly family/good friends who know each other and there’s good food provided, you can get away with a little lateness.

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