do i have to tell my boss im married?

posted 3 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@AndysCraftsNmore:  I can’t see why you would have to – unless you are going to change your name and then it might effect things like taxes etc I imagine. But otherwise why would they need to know… I think it’s really nice you want to keep it between the two of you, I am guessing you have an important reason why. I on the other hand can’t wait to tell the world once I am Mrs. xxx!

Post # 4
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4366 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Our handbook requires us to inform our boss if any of our vital information changes (including address, phone number, emergency contact and marital status).

Why do you want to keep your marriage secret?

Post # 5
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4043 posts
Honey bee

@AndysCraftsNmore:  You may need to change your marital status on HR forms to file taxes, so your boss may or may not find out depending on who handles the paperwork. At one of my jobs (only 10 employees), my boss did HR.

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You don’t have to tell your boss anything, and its actually illegal for them to ask your marital status.  However, as PP mentioned, you would have to change your tax forms with HR, but I mean, they don’t then tell your boss and I seriously doubt your boss is examining your HR forms.

Post # 8
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you have an HR department, you could tell them and not your boss!

Post # 11
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19 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@AndysCraftsNmore:  Seems like a very valid reason to me! With regards to telling you sister though I think you will have to if she does payroll… But I’ve seen a couple of other posts on here about having the official ceremony/signing of the bits of paper before and then having the “wedding” afterwards, So you should search those for more advice about that part. I’d agree with most people on those posts who seemed to think that no-one would mind if you were already legally married at your wedding as if they are truly close family/friends who care about you then they would want you to do what’s best for you and your FI and would definitely still come to the wedding in 2014!

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

There’s no reason why you need to tell anyone at work.  Technically you should change your W-4 to reflect your marital status so that payroll can adjust your deductions accordingly, but you’re going to owe the exact same taxes at the end of the year, no matter what your W-4 said (since you DO need to be honest on the forms that you file with the IRS, obviously).  

It also says pretty clearly on the W-4 that you can choose to enter ‘0’ on the spouse line if you have a working spouse.  

Post # 13
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1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

@AndysCraftsNmore:  I guess don’t then? I don’t know. I’m glad I don’t have to worry about such things where I live (we only report it on our Tax Returns, not at all to the employer). The only difference would probably be if you did change your last name 😛 (but that can typically wait, can’t it?)

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You don’t need to immediately change your withholding at work – I did not.  That means that you may either owe some money in April or get too much withheld, but that’s up to you to decide.  Actually most of that legal stuff (new SS card, new DL) you don’t have to do immediately – it can take a few months.

However, I would encourage you not to try to hide that you are married from your family.  People understand the economic environment these days.  Your vows renewal will not be any less special to you because you aren’t married on the day of, but trust me – as someone who didn’t have exactly the wedding I wanted – you WILL “feel” married after you get married, because you are.  So don’t treat going to the JP as “just signing the papers” because it’s more than that.  That’s special in its own right, and it will be a special day to you too.

That doesn’t mean you should tell everyone, but struggling to hide it will be more trouble than its worth.

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