(Closed) do I invite a difficult aunt

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Do <span class=”Apple-style-span” style=”font-weight: bold”>you like your aunt?  How did you get along during the year you lived there?  If you want to invite her, I’d talk to your mom about how she feels.  My mom’s sister drives her crazy, but she would be sad to exclude my aunt from family events.  You can also offer to try and keep them separate–make sure your aunt’s at another table, etc.  That said, I don’t think you should invite anyone if you really truly are only inviting her out of obligation.

Good luck.  It’s a tough spot to be in. 

Post # 5
142 posts
Blushing bee

I had a similar situation. I knew my mom would be miserable the entire weekend if her sister were there. I figure that as much as it’s a day about me and my husband-to-be, it’s also a really important day for my parents. I decided in the end not to invite the aunt in order that my mom would have a good day. It caused a bit of family drama, but hopefully that won’t reappear at the actually wedding.

But if YOU really want your aunt there (in my case I was completely indifferent) then it’s a different story. Have you tried talking to your mom about it? That’s what I did, and what helped me come to a decision. Maybe she’s more open to having your aunt there than you think? 

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