- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2012
I started a graduate program in May 2012. There are 120 people in the class, and its not a very competitive program (in that there are jobs and good grades available for everyone) so everyone knows each other and are on pretty friendly terms. When I got engaged at the end of the summer I got lots of congratulations and questions about wedding planning from my classmates.
I’m really having a hard time deciding who to invite to the wedding. There are 3 people who I’ve gotten very close to and I’m definitely inviting, but if I start branching out after that I start feeling like if I invite one person I have to invite that whole clique to avoid hurt feelings. These are people who I’ve known for less than a year and many of whom I probably won’t make a huge effort to stay in touch with after graduation, however these are also the people I eat lunch with every day, study with every night, and go out to the bars with on weekends. They are constantly asking me how wedding planning is going and its nice to have people to talk to since I moved to town for the grad program and don’t know a lot of other people here.
Is it rude to discuss wedding plans with these girls (they asked!) and then not invite them? There’s room at the venue and in the budget to add to the guest list but I’m still hesitating for some reason. I’ve always been the type to have a few close friends rather than a ton of casual friends, and in this program I have a ton of casual friends and I just don’t know how to handle that. I honestly have no idea if some of these people would get the invite and think “why is she inviting me? we’re not that close” or if they would be offended if they didn’t get an invite after hearing me gush about my color scheme over lunch.