(Closed) do i invite photographer, like to sit and eat?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

No. They get a vendor meal only (usually a boxed meal). Vendors should not be invited to events.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You should definitely feed them some kind of decent meal.  You’ll have a happier photographer after dinner and hence better pictures for the rest of the evening!  If your venue/catering offers discounted vendor meals, that’s a good choice.

My per-plate cost for regular guests isn’t very much, so I’m buying the same dinner for all of my vendors that my guests are having… with the exception of alcohol.  🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I definitely would say no to inviting her to the shower. Showers, to me, are intended to be your family or closer friends. I think when you start inviting vendors, vendors wives, cashiers at Target, etc. it defeats the purpose of the shower and starts to look like gift grabbing. (Please note: I am in NO way accusing you of doing that, I think you are trying to be generous and inclusive…I’m just trying to present you with another angle that sometimes people have regarding showers).

I don’t see anything wrong with providing them with the same meal as your other guests but I would be weary of doing that for one vendor and not all the others. I definitely wouldn’t give them leftovers you dug out of the garbage that they have to eat in the bathroom. If it’s completely out of your budget for them to have your catered meal then you can ask your caterer about a vendor meal which would probably be some type of boxed lunch with a sandwhich.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I should add that I actually don’t want my photographer taking any pictures while everyone’s eating, since nobody looks good with food in their mouth.  I’m perfectly fine with my photographer taking a break for that portion of the evening!

If you’re having a 10-course dinner that lasts two hours and costs $100 per person, then you certainly don’t need to pony up for a regular guest dinner for your vendors in that case!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We had a DW in Aruba and we flew our photogs from home (VA).  We included them in our head count and they ate dinner at our reception.  We also included them in all our activities!  Our photogs are now great friends and we’ll continue to do work with them…like the infamous “baby bump” pics.

 

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My photogs (and all vendors present) are eating the same food as the guests, no vendor meal for them. They’re the ahrdest-working people there and I want them to be well-fed and happy so they can do the best work that I hired them for!

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

For our venue, when we fill out our banquet order, we provide both the # of regular meals and vendor meals.  We’re aren’t sending out invites or formally inviting any of our vendors.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

To all:  did you sit your photog with the rest of the guests?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You are required to feed your photographer since they will be with you all day with no chance for a break. But they are not a guest. Your caterer should have vendor meals or shell out the money for the same entree as everyone else and ask if you can get any discounts for a vendor in that case. Be aware that photos are extremely important and if you annoy your photographer (which includes not feeding them), they may not provide the service and pictures you want.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I doubt if any professional you hire for your wedding day would do less than their job if you didn’t feed them, but I suppose it could happen.

 So yes, you definitely should provide a decent meal for them and probably let them decide when they want to eat it. Since you have 2 of them,they’ll more than likely stagger when they eat so one is available for pictures at all times.

Ours were fed the same as everyone else, minus alcohol,so the cost per vendor was reduced. Check with your venue about what their policy is with regard to this.

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