Post # 1
ITs a long story but i have 3 Bridesmaid or Best Man and one Maid/Matron of Honor. MOH lives far away, one Bridesmaid or Best Man is Future Sister-In-Law and the other 2 are my sisters. One has quit twice. The second time she quit she called back the next morning and said she wants back in the party but its for mom and dad and not for me…after some thouhgt i called her back, asked if thats true and if so I dont want her in the party (I only want people in the party who are up there for ME and FH). She said it is…so she is no longer in the party 🙁 OTHER sister got engaged in Jan and is planning a wedding for summer of 2011. My family is coming up this weekend to help me with wedding stuff and she planned dress shopping for her gown over the weekend (worst of all the family hid it from me bc they though i would be jealous…not jealous guys…angry) she tells me right after i get engaged that she is going to get married two weeks before or after me and she doesnt care what i think (she changes the date after she gets engaged bc she cant get her dress in time) AND one day when she is doing invitations with me and i vent about ex-BM (BM at the time) for not giving me dress sizes and then not showing up to go dress shopping..SHE GOES AND TELLS HER!! (prompting the second quit)
Do i get rid of sister #2 the future bridezilla to be?
Post # 3
Oh holy hell. This is exactly why I am not having a wedding party. I had drama at the beginning too, so much so I was upset with 2 out of the 3 and didn’t care if they even came. Personally, I would just cut it off and have your Maid/Matron of Honor only and have the other girls do something else if you want them too.
You said your sister is getting married in 2011 but you also said she is getting married two weeks before or after you–but it says you are getting married this year. I’m confused.
Post # 4
Yes, it sounds like there’s already drama, and is it gets closer to both of your weddings, she sounds like she won’t be helpful to you at all. And keeping things away from you, not cool. I would just drop and it and not deal with the drama.
Post # 5
Yeah sorry i made that a little confusing.
When i first got engaged and she wasnt she told me she was PLANNING on having her wedding tow weeks before or after mine, wether i liked it or not.
AFTER she got engaged (or more after she went dress shopping with me and realized how long it took for a dress to come in) she set her date for the following July (2011) instead.
Post # 6
Maybe just do a Maid/Matron of Honor and a Bridesmaid or Best Man and Skip all the rest of the Drama! I know it hurts all brides feeling including mine. When your friends and family seem as if your wedding could mean less to them! I’ve experienced that feeling with some people. Then I realize if they don’t care then they are really selfish people who can’t put aside their feelings to make a loved one happy!
Post # 7
If you’re afraid of having serious issues if you kick her out (which I can almost guarantee there will be!) you can always ask her to step down as a Bridesmaid or Best Man so she can focus more on her own wedding, but ask her to do a reading or something instead. that way, she’s out of your hair, but you’re still the better person!!
Post # 8
I duno I think you are your sisters really need to sit down and talk things out. There is no reason to have hostility at either of your weddings.