Post # 1
My wedding is 6 months away, and I wasn’t planning on hiring a wedding planner, but every time I tell people that, they gasp or look at me funny. I’ve handled everything by myself up until now (and am having family help the day of as well), but now I’m a bit freaked me out!
Bees, please share your planner or planner-less experiences and/or opinions. Is it too late to hire one if I decide to? And if you don’t mind sharing, about how much does one cost (on a tight budget)?
Post # 3
Well in my opinion you do need a planner. I was one who didnt believe I needed one, but my good friend decided to be the planner and it has taken such a load off me. She shows me what she has done and I approve or disapprove and it allows me to not have to stress about anything as a whole. Personally I am glad that I have one cus now I think I would be at my wits end. But the choice is always yours.
Post # 4
I don’t have a wedding planner, and I’m doing just fine without one 🙂
Post # 5
Hey! My fiance and I have been planning for awhile now, probably ever since we got enagaged, which has almost been a year. We are having a “month of planner” who will help us with everything for the month and then will be there to control everything for our rehearsal, and the day of. We dont want to have anyone from our family worry about anything. She will be there and her assistant and she will cost 900.00 which I think is well worth it.
Post # 6
I planned a long distance wedding, so I hired a wedding planner. It was really nice to be able to relax with my family and friends on the day of my wedding instead of worrying that things wouldn’t be done correctly. I also wanted my friends/family to be able to enjoy the day instead of having to worry about setting things up, etc.
I would recommed getting a wedding planner just because it lessens the stress. I don’t think it’s too late to hire someone.
The price for me was around 3000 – that included catering costs (plates, utensils, linens, etc.), linens for the tables, set up, break down, decorations for the ceremony, rehearsal fee, director fee…I’m probably forgetting some other things.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
Darling Husband and I planned the entire wedding ourselves and did pretty much all of the preparations, setup, etc. We did more than just fine and saved a lot of money by not having a planner, and our wedding was amazing! And it was nice to know that every compliment a guest paid to us was one we could take full credit for. 🙂
Post # 8
I’m not using a wedding planner and I’m not having any problems so far. I’m pretty well organized and have just been following my checklists as far as planning timelines and keeping track of payments and vendors with spreadsheets and my notebook. We are having someone the day of just to make sure the timeline runs smoothly.
Post # 9
I dont think you need anything, but I do think it would remove a TON of stress off you if you at least had a day of coordinator if you can swing $300 or so dollars.
Even if friends are helping, a coordinator knows everything that is going on and vendors have a contact person that is not you. They make sure peopel are where they need to be, when they need to be there. That the right props are there, etc.
He/she can keep you and your vendors on time, deal with emergencies, make sure things are set up to your preferences and basically allow you and your moms/family/friends to enjoy the day without stressing.
A friend is still a guest and I am sure they would like to enjoy themselves and drink and talk and dance. A coordinator is paid to be there. A friend may lose track of time due to dancing or a conversation etc.
Post # 10
I am 7 day newlywed and i absolutely believe that you need at least a wedding day coordinator . I am a pretty organized person , and did lots of DIY for my wedding . From centerpieces , to bouts , to bouquets and linens . Let me tell you that i dont know what i would have done without my coordinator . One week before my wedding , she took over answering all emails frm other vendors and confirming timeline . On the day of i can honestly say she saved my day . I had a stress free wedding because of her team .
- She kept us all on time
- She met with us at the church with the bouts we forgot at the hotel we got ready in
- She made sure sure the room we got ready in was cleaned out and she checked us out
- She steamed my gown from whatever wrinkles was left in it during the transport to teh hotel
- She steamed 2 other dresses that i changed into during the night
- She checked us in the room we were staying in that night , and decorated it with petals , champagne my hubby provided , chocolate and the tub was so pretty , we felt asleep in there . it was so relaxing
- she put all the chair covers and the tablecloths on . She set all my centerpieces up since we made them the ourselves
- She set my candy bar up and kept in running
- She made sure the cocktail hour room was also decorated according to our desire in less than 2 hours ( this room wasnt available until 2 hours before cocktail starts)
- She did so many things i couldnt list them all !!!
My wedding coordinator was amazing ! Although the Hilton we had our reception in came with a coordinator,2 banquet managers and evenly amazing staff , i always knew i needed my own coordinator , someone who had my back and wasnt working for the hotel .
Post # 11
I’d see what’s involved in your venue. Ours comes with a coordinator who gathers all the other vendor info and makes sure that things run in an orderly fashion on the day of. She takes care of storing our gifts overnight if we’d like, she and her crew set up the tables and centerpieces, she is there from the dj set up and the shutdown at 2am. No need to pay an additional planner when our coordinator totally fits the bill and is included in our venue/food price.
I’d see what options are already open to you, but I know I wouldn’t have paid extra for one if we didn’t have our coordinator. I’m too type A to hand off projects 🙂
Post # 12
@GeorgiaTeacup: I can relate. I also decided to forego a planner, and was scoffed at by one of my bridesmaids who said her day of coordinator was her godsend for her own wedding. But I was confident in my support system, and my cousin was happy to step in and serve as my “day of coordinator”. But I should also add that my venue came with the service of their director, who helped immensely with things happening at the venue. So my cousin didn’t need to do much at all. In the end, things felt pretty good!
How this pertains to you, it depends on how comfortable you feel with your situation and what kind of person you are. Type A personalities don’t usually like to have other people plan their wedding, and other people really find solace in not having the stress. Look into day of coordinators, because that may be what you need just for peace of mind on your big day!
Post # 13
Wedding planner starts at $1,000. You can also get wedding day coordinator for less (one day). I am planning everything myself and have family help. Don’t be afraid to delegate.
Post # 14
I would have hired a wedding planner for the planning process if I only knew how controlling my families were going to be. it would have been nice to have someone unrelated to stand by what my husband and I wanted and tell everyone else to f off. We got through it, just with many headaches.
In terms of the day of coordinator it really depends on your venue and vendors. Mine were all so amazing, they took care of their own area and my venue provided my a day of so there wouldn’t really have been a need for someone else.
Post # 15
I don’t think you need one at all.
My Fiance and I have planned our wedding using online checklists etc and so far everything is fine!
We got very lucky with our caterer who is fantastic. She planned the timeline of the day with us, has offered to do the set up (still not sure on this as I want to do it myself – a bit of a perfectionist!), will def do the clean up, will be in charge at the reception on the night to oversee everything runs smoothly, including alcohol and the cake which we ordered through other vendors.
Post # 16
@GeorgiaTeacup: at first I thought we needed a wedding planner because I was so overwhelmed with everything and we have a fairly short engagement period. got engaged septmeber getting married in march.. but as you go long and do things one by one, the stress starts decreasing.. just focus on one task at a time and cross it off the list.
I mean if you can afford one, it’d be nice but we decided we rather spend that money on a DJ instead of a wedding planner.
everything will be fine. I had people telling me I would NOT ever be able to have a catholic ceremony with such a short engagement period but here I am getting married in a catholic church .. just go out and don’t be afraid to do things on your own and ask questions! you’ll be fine 🙂