Do I NEED an open bar??

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

kearaaaaaa:  Go get a glass of wine, sweetheart! Drink tickets are perfectly fine. Wine at the table during dinner is perfectly fine. Remember, you’re offering free drinks (partially), so if someone’s bothered….kinda sucks to be them, right?! People have tons of fun at weddings that don’t even offer alcohol. You’ll be fine. 

FI and I are planning on supplying beer and wine only. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

No one should be pulling out a wallet at your wedding. So just host whatever you can afford. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We’re not having any alcohol and I still think people will have a good time. So even if you have a cash bar, people should still have fun. And if they’re too cheap to buy their own drink, but can’t have fun without alcohol they have a problem that’s not yours.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Can you do beer and wine only? I think it’d be better than drink tickets or nothing at all. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

Just have beer, wine and soft drink. There is no need to have an open bar but you should host whatever you decide to offer.

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I am of the opinion that you should host all of your guests’ food and beverages for the evening, but your open bar does not need to include anything that you do not wish for it to include. For example, our “open bar” consisted only of non-alcoholic beverages, including iced tea, sodas, and juices.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

Host what you can afford.  Drink tickets are appropriate at a fundraiser or a commerical or corporate event, not at  a private social affair.  You should never create two tiers of guests, those who can afford or opt to pay  and those who can’t or won’t. Wine at the table with dinner is absolutely fine. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You don’t need an open bar, but you need to not charge guests for their refreshments.  Whether that’s a dry wedding, just beer and wine, or beer/wine/specialty cocktail those are all acceptable alternatives to an open bar.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

It may depend upon your state laws regarding liquor serving in events and also formality of reception, but in my country and circle totally acceptable way of serving alcohol is to put some bottles on dinner table and let people help themselves (usually it’s 1 or 2 spirits and red and white wine) – it doesn’t break the bank and you can use leftovers for family occasions (we still haven’t finished our May 2014 wedding wine). Doesn’t cover all peoples preferences, but then again, food served in wedding reception also may not be everyone’s favorite. Actual bar with huge drink choice is kind of extravaganza and you can absolutely have wedding with something simpler and cheaper.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - Miami, Fl

We are not having an open bar to cut on costs. Also half of the guest list does not drink so it would be a waste. We’re having a lunch ceremony at a restaurant. We are hosting soft drinks, coffee, and pitchers of sangria and carafes of mimosas on each table.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

kearaaaaaa: 

I would prefer wine!  “tickets” anything have a festival or public event vibe & I would be very put off by them at a personal event.  I think serving wine with dinner is very nice.  I would enjoy that & appreciate that as a guest.  

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Open bar is great bit stretching your budget to the max is not.  Beer and wine is always a great choice and I don’t thing anyone would complain.  The mimosa pitchers used by the other bee sounds adorable.  I’ve also seen “stock the bar” engagement parties where guests bring liquor of their choice that can be used at the wedoing.  All depends on your venue and if you can bring outside drinks for that one though.  Good luck!

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Zoelalo.
  • This reply was modified 1 year, 10 months ago by  Zoelalo.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

And to answer your title question – No!  You do not NEED! An open bar!  Not one bit, don’t even think about it.  wine service during dinner is very nice.  if you want to offer a full bar outside if that, then it’s totally okay for it to be a cash bar.  

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you can’t afford a full open bar, do open beer and wine Only. Drink tickets are really cheesy And your guests are already paying good money and time to be at your wedding (gift, possibly travel, possibly new outfit, etc plus giving you their day) so they shouldn’t need to pay for basic drinks. 

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