Post # 1
I’m planning on having 3 adult bridesmaids, plus two children (I think you’d call them flower girls). My question is: is it worth “promoting” one bridesmaid to the role of Maid of Honour? Did you find/are you finding it benneficial to have a separate MOH who took on different/more important roles? And how did the role of BM and MOH differ in your wedding?
As far as I know, traditionally (at least where I live) bridesmaids were unmarried and your MOH was married. By the time of our wedding, all three will be married so that distinction is unhelpful! Also, the BM who has been married the longest will have a 2 year old child, so I don’t really want to ask her to do anything more than turn up!
Thanks for your help
Post # 3
I actually didn’t have a bridal party at all – and didn’t feel like I was missing anything! So, no, I don’t think it’s important to have a specific maid of honer.
Post # 4
In our area the maid of honour typically is one of the witnesses that signs your registry as well as making a speech. I thought about not designating a specific bridesmaid, but whoever did these things would have been the “defacto maid of honour” anyway.
Post # 5
@SapphireSun: Interesting! Here, as far as I know, the witnesses can be anyone you like. My sister (who didn’t have a bridal party) had her mother and MIL. I’ve also seen it done by best man and BM/MOH and by other friends/family. Need to discuss the signing of the register with OH, but it might be something we ask friends from outside the bridal party to do.
Oh, and here usually the MOH doesn’t make a speech, just: Father of Bride, Groom and Best Man.
Do MOH have any other specific roles?
Post # 6
I say if no one special really jumps out at you as someone you want to honor with that title, you can totally forgo it!