(Closed) do I need to be there?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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7908 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I would cancel on her and tell her that you’d still love to go locally if she wants some other time.  Likely, she will go to many shops anyway. Also, some let you Skype people in to watch, so maybe you can suggest that to her. My best friend was 5 hours away and Skyped in when I went to a local salon and it was SO much fun.

Post # 4
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45378 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If finances are a problem, tell her. It will save issues from arising later. Tell her that money is tight right now, and you are not able to pay your share of the expenses for the trip (although I’m not sure what those would be).

If she is going with or without you, I wouldn’t think she would be expecting anyone to chip in for gas. Lunch maybe?

Or are you saying you can’t buy your dress now if you find one this weekend?

Post # 5
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1375 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

You are shopping for her dress, correct?  I see no reason you need to be there.  Would it be nice?  Of course, but not required, whether or not she was there to help you pick out your dress.  You should never put yourself out financially for someone else’s wedding!

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