Post # 1
I never thought I’d write a post about my bridesmaids — I love them all dearly — but here I am 🙂
Here’s the quick deal: Five bmaids including sister as MOH, FSIL and three dear friends. My family is paying for their dresses, shoes, hair/make-up, nails and plan to host a bridesmaids luncheon the day before the wedding. Three of my bmaids including sister and FSIL “hosted” a shower for me (read: my mom paid for the whole thing but their names were on the invite) which was absolutely gorgeous. The same three girls have been so nice in offering to help out with various wedding related tasks which I have been so appreciative of but the other two have literally been MIA and are planning the bachlorette party.
I do not want to hold it against the two girls that are mia because I know life can be very busy… nor do I want to say anything anyone that knows me and start a gossip train.. but really do I need to actually buy them a gift too? I’m not really sure what I would be thanking them for… and I’m already personally paying for hair/makeup/nails for the girls (mom bought dresses/shoes). I’d like to buy the three other girls a thank you gift for planning the bachlorette party since that is a nice extra. I would give the gift to them that weekend versus at the bridesmaids luncheon to avoid obvious rudeness of giving gifts to only some girls.
Long story short: Is an actual/physical gift required for bridesmaids?
Post # 3
I think since you are paying for their dress, etc. you don’t need to buy any of them a gift for being in the wedding.
If you would like to buy the 3 BMs a gift for hosting a bachelorette that if fine, however I would make sure you do it away form the other 2 BMs. Also, are all 5 of the girls friends? It may get around to the other two that they didn’t get a gift.
However, I think giving them all a heartfelt card the morning of the wedding just to thank them for being there for you would be a nice gesture 🙂
Post # 4
You’re thanking them for standing up with you and supporting your marriage and supporting you. The only thing a BM is required to do is show up and wear the right dress, and doing so is an indication that they love you and will be there for you as you enter into this huge, life-changing commitment. So, no, you don’t have to get them a big gift since you and your family are spending a lot on them, but you should do something for them that tells them how much their presence and support means to you. A heartfelt card, perhaps?
Post # 5
I think only doing it for some and not others is kinda leaving it open for problems. Maybe do it after the wedding day and have a nice photo of you girls together or something instead.
My girls paid for their own dresses but I paid for everything else like hair and makeup. The jewelery, hair pieces and a few other little “bridesmaid” tid bits I picked up along the way are going to be given the night before the wedding with a thankyou card just as a nice little thing to say thanks.