- 6 years ago
I am going anonybee for this post, since I don’t want to be google-able. Also kinda long.
Here’s the thing bees, this has been bothering me for a bit and i feel BAD!
When my FI and I got engaged there was a bit of a snaffu with the changeing of the facebook “status”, we changed it to engaged, and for whatever reason Facebook decided to make us “single”. After a while my phone started to blow up with my friends going “WHAT HAPPENED, are you ok?”
After reassuring those that everything was well, I called up my Fi and asked him if he minded me going on his facebook to fix it. He told me to do it since he did not actually know how.
Whelp bees, did i recive a bit of a shock!
Time stamped a few miniuts after the status changed to single, FI’s friend, we will call her Anne, posted on his wall.
Sorry to hear about your relationship with (ME). She wasn’t very good for you anyway, she was kinda a bitch, I did not actualy like her and I am glad you guys are over.
So I realize that this is kinda soon, but I figured now is a good time to let you know that I have liked you alot for a while now and I would really like to, now that you and (ME) are no longer together, see if our friendship can become a relationship. Sorry if this seems forward, but give me a call sometime and we can hangout.
Bees, I was shocked! I actually considered Anne a very good friend prior to this, like we went shopping, I bought her coffee when we had class together, and while I am outspoken, I had, quite litterally, had politeness beaten in to me as a child.
I did not comment on it, just changed the status to “engaged to (me)” with a quick blurb about how facebook had issues. And showed FI the page.
He was not happy, but by the time he got around to reading it, a mutual friend of ours had ripped her a new one, called Fi about it, and she had deleted the post before he saw it.
I had classes with her after that and she acted like nothing happened, I don’t know if she did not think that I had seen it or what, but I did not call her out on it.
Last night, she texted Fi to see if he wanted to go out to the bar with her. He said he would think about it, but probably not since he had class in the morning ( he doesnt have class today at all btw) .
He then asked me what I thought about him going, and i told him the truth, that I would prefer that he did not go to the bar with her, however, she is his friend and it would not be fair for me to tell him “no, you can’t go with her” since he has no problem with me going out with my friends.
He told me “ok”, and we sat down to watch the walking dead.
Here is my problem bees, it really really really really bothered me that she texted him to go to the bar. Normally, I would not have an issue, infact i encourage him to go out with his friends, male/ female don’t really care.
I was very happy that I found out that he chose not to go, but I feel like I am being possesive over him now. I KNOW that he isn’t going anywhere, I have a ring on my finger and he has chosen me but it BOTHERS ME that she is around.
I have never been this insecure in my life, and I do not know where this is comming from.
Am I crazy?