Do i need to disclose that my stone is moissanite when getting set?

posted 6 days ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I disclose that my stone is moissanite
    Yes they could ruin it! : (74 votes)
    91 %
    No they will just judge you anyway : (7 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 2
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    60 posts
    Worker bee

    Any decent jeweler will be able to tell with their naked eye, and even a less experienced jeweler will be able to tell when they use their loupe.

    Post # 3
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    2736 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’d be more worried about them ruining the stone than their judgements on the stone itself.

    sweet844 :  Many bees on here claim their jewellers cant tell the difference lol. IDK if the jewellers are just blowing smoke up those bee’s bums or if they genuinly can’t tell (and thus shouldn’t be in business as a jeweller…) but yeah lol. 

    Post # 4
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    417 posts
    Helper bee

    The jeweler will be able to tell right away that the stone is not a diamond.  Moissanites and diamonds do not look enough alike to be confused like that.

    Post # 6
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    60 posts
    Worker bee

    jellybellynelly :  Too funny. My friend that is a jeweler was able to tell with our friend’s right away, in a dimly lit restaurant, after a few drinks.

    Post # 7
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    2736 posts
    Sugar bee

    heatherlw :  moiss is more prone to scratches and chipping than a diamond. So yes, I would disclose. You might be better off with an independant jeweller vs a chain if the judgement thing is of worry. I’m assuming you have no local places that actually sell moiss because that would be your best bet. 

    sweet844 :  I know haha. I like playing the “moiss or diamond” game on instagram while scrolling through. But I have seen tons of posts on here about how a bee goes in to get her ring cleaned and the jeweller is SO SURPRISED to hear its not a diamond. So who knows! 

    Post # 8
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    547 posts
    Busy bee

    If your jeweller can’t tell what the stone is, you have a bigger problem. 😀

    Tell them upfront.

    What if they need specific tools to work with that stone and they don’t normally have them handy?

    If they are snooty about it, you can find another jeweller.

    Post # 9
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    23 posts
    Newbee

    You are kidding yourself if you think the jeweler can’t tell your stone is a moissanite and not a diamond.  And if they can’t tell, well, they aren’t a real jeweler.

    Post # 10
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    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    More importantly, if your jeweler judges you for having a moissanite, get a new jeweler undecided

    Post # 11
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    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    heatherlw :  how are you pretty sure they won’t be able to tell its not a diamond? are you a jewler? You must be if you know they can’t tell the difference already :/

    Jewlery stores here SELL moissanite. They know what it is, they know how to tell the difference, don’t think they won’t. If they’re judging you, go to someone else.

    Don’t kid yourself – they are two very different stones and should be treated accordingly.

    Post # 12
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    251 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2005

    I agree with PPs that you don’t need any crap from a judgy jeweler, especially since that would be the person you would want to use for maintenance/prong inspections down the road. Moissy temporarily changes color when hit with the heat from jeweler’s torch so they would figure out by then, if not immediately.

    Havid said all that, I purchased an Amora Gem probably 2.5-3 years ago, immediately after it became available to ship to the US. I had a ring made by Schubach but brought it in to a local place for resizing. The jeweler was truly stumped because he never saw an Amora! He knew what moissies were like back in 2015 (more color, splintery cut) so he figured it can’t be a moissy and was willing to believe it was a diamond until I told him otherwise. Of course the thing tested as diamond on his tester. I bet there still are some jewelers who could get confused by an Amora or colorless H&A cut moissy lol!

    Post # 13
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    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    mrsbluetomato :  now I don’t believe it tested as diamond for one second

    thanks for making me laugh today!

    Post # 14
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    411 posts
    Helper bee

    As someone who has a moissanite ring myself… you need to tell them. Firstly, they’ll know anyways so it would be awkward and unnecessary to try and hide it lol

    Post # 15
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    1058 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would, if for no other reason that not putting the jeweler in the potentially awkward position of wondering if you know your stone is not a diamond.  Would you want them to be concerned that your FI prpoposed and told you it was a diamond or that you got duped when you bought it?  Or that you would try and claim they had swapped the stone?

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