Do I need to follow up on this "incorrect" RSVP?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Yes, I think you should just to be safe. It can’t hurt to ask him!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@gingerkitten:  Yes, definitely call and talk to HIM, don’t just take a second hand answer from FMIL.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@gingerkitten:  yeah just call him up or have FI call to clarify

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@gingerkitten:  I would just mention it to him at the party ‘it’s too bad more people can’t come to Italy but we knew it was a possiblity’ or something, giving him the opportunity to state if he’s coming or not.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would just check with him to be sure.  A quick casual phone call or email to him can clear it up.  Tell him how happy you are that he’ll be celebrating with you and you just want to double check which party he’ll be attending.  If you keep it light and say how happy you are he’ll be there I don’t think he’ll be embarassed.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d double check just in case! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@gingerkitten:  Yep, just make sure.  Don’t take his mother’s word for it; she isn’t actually running his life.  Or… is she? lol

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would just call and confirm by saying “I just want to confirm with you that you understand the wedding will be in Italy and you are able to travel.” You can make it sound like you are calling everyone and not just him in particular.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would definitely double check. Just call him up and say that you got his RSVP to the wedding and wanted to confirm so that you could include him in any emails or whatever about travel accomodations.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m super awkward about things like this so I would maybe have someone ask for me so it doesn’t seem like I’m questioning his ability to correctly RSVP. Maybe have a cousin/aunt/whatever call him and ask if he’s going or say you never got his RSVP (things do get lost in the mail afterall) are were wanted to know if he was able to attend. 

Post # 13
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785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@gingerkitten:  I would definitely double check – could be as simple as telling him how excited you are that he can come!

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2014 - Silverthorne Town Pavilion

Why not call and say you are happy that he will be there and see if he corrects you?  I would do that, but I am very close to future family 🙂

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ya you need to get to the bottom of this… and best done c/o the horse’s mouth (FBIL not the FMIL)

Such as…

“Got your YES RSVP on coming to the Wedding in Italy, so excited to hear you’ll be joining us.  I am now calling to confirm your email address, cause we’ll be sending out additional info to those who are planning to travel with   (town / city)   Hotel info etc”

That should work to set the record straight…

 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yeah I’d probably just clarify with him to make sure

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