Post # 1
So, my FI’s mom, uncle, brother+husband, brother+wife, and our 2 friends are going to be coming in from out-of-town for our wedding. They’ll all be staying in a hotel.
Do I *need* to have a day-after breakfast/brunch get together? Our wedding is going to be on a Saturday… I don’t know what these peoples schedule are like, so I don’t know if Sunday morning, everyone is just going to fly/drive back home ASAP or what.
How should I approach this? Also, we’re on an extremely tight budget, so I really don’t want to have one in the first place. Is it poor etiquette *not* to have one?
Post # 3
It’s nice if you can afford it, but its not necessary. We’re not having one and 80-90% of our guests will be coming from another country (it’s a DW)
Post # 4
You don’t NEED to do anything. Weddings have expanded from cake and punch to a full dinner, to a rehearsal dinner, reception dinner, midnight snack, and morning brunch.
Enough. Do what you can do (budget, time, and sanity-wise), and your guests will love it!
Post # 5
@Sunnybrook: Haha, thank you 🙂 My head is literally swimming in all of this wedding etiquette and I’m trying not to mess it up.
Post # 6
@Glasgowbound: *phew* Good to know; thank you!
Post # 7
@Sunnybrook: I totally agree. In fact, all you need for a wedding is yourself, a groom, a celebrant, and a few witnesses (depending on your local laws). The witnesses don’t even have to know you!
So…no. You don’t need a day-after-brunch.
Post # 8
In our case, I’ve just been telling friends that, since we’re not leaving until Monday for our honeymoon, we’d love to meet up on Sunday if anyone is sticking around for brunch/lunch. That way it is clear that it is not a scheduled event that we’re paying for and there is no pressure for those wanting to get out of town early. I would suggest you informally mention to friends/family to text you on Sunday morning if they’re wanting to meet up (if you want to). That way it is clear that it is not a planned “wedding” event.
Post # 9
Definitely not necessary! It would just add needless stress (and funds) trying to figure out when and where to do it…probably guests want to sleep in after the wedding dancing anyways:)
Post # 10
I agree with PP, you don’t need to have anything. There is no written rule that you have to have a day-after event of some kind
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Do what works best for you. If you wanted to, you could use word of mouth to let them know that you will be having brunch at x restaurant at y time, and that you would be happy if people wanted to meet up with you then. That takes the pressure off of you because you’re not really hosting anyone, and makes it easier for others to decline if they need to because there’s not the pressure of an official invitation.
Post # 12
We had mostly out of town guests and did not do a day after brunch or lunch.
Post # 13
I’ve never been to a wedding that had one
Post # 14
It’s totally up to you. If they’ll be sticking around, and you all want to hang out, then by all means, do it. 🙂
Our wedding will be overseas and we’re lucky to have a lot of our family and friends flying in to attend. So although they will all be available the morning after, we decided we’re going to skp brunch with them since FI and I figured that we’ll want to sleep in. Maybe we’ll just have dinner with them instead. 🙂
Post # 15
not necessary! DH and i went out of our way to avoid people the next day (we stayed at the hotel where our reception was held the night of our wedding and had guests staying there also). we just wanted to be able to enjoy each other and not worry about hosting people. we weren’t taking our honeymoon for a few months after the wedding so that next day was important for us to have to ourselves. we also had a small (40 people) wedding and were able to see and talk to everyone at the reception so we didn’t feel bad about avoiding the next day.
Post # 16
Most of our guests will be coming from out of town. We are also on quite a tight budget. The hotel we are most likely going with to reserve rooms offers continental breakfast, and I think that is good enough!