Post # 1
So, I was trying to arrange the Reserved Seating at my wedding, and realized that providing reserved seating for our bridal party will be a complete headache! We have 12 total and many of them will be bringing thier parents and/or significant others to the wedding. Yes, they are all invited (both my fiance and I grew up with many people in our bridal party so we are close to their parents as well).
Our reception venue is one room which is somewhat separated by columnns. Our plan was to have 6 – 8 tables with reserved, assigned seating for our parents, grandparents and padrinos (tradiationally in Hispanic culture, the people who buy you your Bible, unity candle, etc) Only 6 – 8 tables fit at the front of the columns, facing the dancefloor. The rest of the tables have to be behind the columns.
If we did reserved seating for our bridal party and their families, half of the reception would have reserved seating and half would not! However, I don’t want them to feel unimportant or unappreciated!
And BTW – assigned seating is NOT an option for the entire wedding. As it is people in my culture (ones around where I’m from anyway) are not used to even RSVPing much less being told where to sit when and if they arrive to the wedding – which is a whole another problem we’re gonna have!
What is your opinion on this? Help!
Post # 3
Yes I would reserve them tables because what happens is they’ll be with you and your family taking pictures and the rest of the guests will go inside and sit down until you get done. The other guests will take up the tables and then your wedding party may or may not have plenty of seats to sit together. I would just have the wedding party and their dates reserved seats. Their parents and their friends can gather at other tables with the rest of the wedding. That’s what I’ve seen lately.
Post # 4
I would say yes. vintage2010 made some really good points. I recently attended a wedding where there were no reserved seats for the bridal party, so when they got there, they all had to sit at some table in the corner of the room (including the bride and groom)!
Post # 5
I agree, you should definitely reserve seats for the wedding party. Their parents can fend for themselves, but you want to make sure they end up with seats, especially if you’re not really sure how many people will be coming!
Post # 6
Great; thanks for the input ladies! I will figure something out. Vintage 2010, I appreciate your points. The parents can all find each other since many of them know each other anyway!
Post # 7
I think it’s definitely a good idea. I’ve only been to one wedding with assigned seating and it was kind of difficult to navigate. Because the bridal party will be coming in after everyone else (when they’re announced, I’m guessing), they won’t be able to save spots for themselves. I think it’s smart to set someplace aside for them, so they don’t just have to split up and take the empty seats at tables around the room.
Post # 8
I am actually going to say no you don’t need to do reserved seating. It seems like culturally this is not something that typically happens. I would just be SURE to tell your bridal party "Make sure your Mom/Dad/Brother/Husband/Wife saves you a seat at their table when they get their seat." Simple as that. It seems as if you are having a bit of a smaller wedding, so it really shouldn’t be terrible. From what you wrote it looks like they would rather sit with their families, which as long as it’s fine with you — should be how it goes. Hope that helped even though I’m going against everyone else! 🙂
Post # 9
It will just be easier for you to reserve the seats, that way you won’t worry about it.
Post # 10
Gracez, I am hispanic also and we’ve decided to go ahead and do assigned seating. We will have a head table so that takes care of the bridal party and spouses, but I am also going to be sure you have reserved signs for our parents and stuff. We ultimately ended up doingthis because I don’t want people to scatter out and then for it to turn in to a mess. Of course, I want to be sure that if anything our parents and close family have the closest seats as well.