Post # 1
I had a roommate in grad school until I moved in with my fiance and she moved in with hers in 2011. She invited me to her wedding in 2012. We haven’t talked much since but she did ask when my wedding was back in the summer. Should I invite her to our wedding, even though we’re basically acquaintances at this point? We only lived together 6 months, so we never got super close.
Post # 3
@newcitylights: It would be very nice but not mandatory.
Post # 4
@newcitylights: Welcome to the refined world of social reciprocity.
When someone invites you to something, good manners require you to respond “in kind”. You are showing a nice awareness of that social obligation.
However, “in kind” does not mean wedding-for-wedding. If it did, all the already-marrieds and never-to-be-marrieds on your invitation list would be unable to fulfil their responsibilities. No, “in kind” means dinner-for-dinner, tea-for-tea, brunch-for-brunch. And “in kind” reciprocal invitations should be paid in the same season as the original invitation. So assuming the previous bride served you dinner in 2012; and assuming you invited her to dinner, also in 2012; then your debts are paid. If not, then they’ve already been written off and subtracted from your social reputation.
Post # 5
Invite who you want. If you don’t feel close enough to her, don’t invite her. People have various sized weddings so it’s natural that invites don’t always go both ways.