- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Do I have to write a thank you note to a bridesmaid (MOH) if we are no longer speaking? (I have a previous post about her.) I decided to give her another chance and let her come to my wedding because I had some hope that we could repair our friendship. Shes from out of town so I hardly see her. She came a week early and stayed in our apartment for a few days and then went to a hotel for 3 days that we paid for. She didnt really show an interest in the wedding or much excitement at all (even as a MOH.) She just kind of sat there and didnt even try to catch up with me. Any conversation we had, I was the one talking. I didnt learn anything new about her at all, it all felt so one-sided. When she left to the hotel she even left me a ton of dirty dishes to do. I didnt see her the day before my wedding because her SO said she was “exhausted.” When I asked her SO to help me out by making a phone call, he told me they were out watching a movie. She actually caused more stress for everybody by not communicating with me or my other MOH. My other MOH had to track her down and basically pull her out of bed to make sure she was on time for the makeup apt. Also, becasue she was “exhausted” she missed our rehearsal.
And then (5 days later) she criticized my wedding to my face when I told her I was let down and was unsure that our friendship could work out. I mean, who does that?
The reason I feel she needs a thank you note is because she did pay for a few things. She paid for her dress that she chose from Dillards ($50) and shoes she chose from DSW ($40.) I did not put any restrictions on attire except for dress color. Then, she put in ~$100 towards the bachelorette party (which the other MOH planned entirely by herself.)
I did give her a small coach bag (with gift receipt) and a $25 gift card.
So, after knowing that and the fact that I would like to close the door on this friendship…do I need to write her a thank you note?