Do I need to write a thank you to a rude aunt?

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@immanorcalbee:  I only send thank you cards for gifts. 

Post # 4
1926 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Maybe just say “Thanks for attending our wedding!” or something. that way you aren’t thanking her for something she didn’t do and she is still getting a thank you. 

Post # 6
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Etiquette Snob here… lol

Traditonally, Thank You Cards are only required for Gifts & Acts of Kindness.

If she sent you a gift then YES, you need to write a Thank You Note.  It doesn’t have to be “dripping with kind words”… it could be just factual, and suffice.

Hope this helps,

PS… Didn’t get the whole asking for NO GIFTS thing on your part… especially so if your DH is of Chinese background.  (Perhaps, I’ve misunderstood that bit in your post)


Post # 8
1403 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

So she pulls you aside at your wedding to basically tell you she is giving you her weird blessing on your choice?

What kind of delusional, out-to-lunch trick is your aunt?

Send a card that says “Thanks for coming to the wedding!” and limit your communication with her.  What a nuisance.

Post # 10
1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

She was a bitch, there’s no doubting that. She also didn’t give a gift. From a strict perspective, you don’t have to write her a thank you note. It’s a matter of – what do you expect to come out of it? It sounds as though she’ll complain, but then again, she’ll probably complain no matter what.

I had a somewhat similar situation and just sent a thank you card. In my mind, it made me the bigger person.

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