(Closed) Do I need two?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I need to give two thank you's?
    Yes : (19 votes)
    39 %
    No : (30 votes)
    61 %
  • Post # 3
    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    This is a mixed bag on the Bee, but I personally feel that if you have already personally and effusively thanked the gift-free guests for coming, then you don’t need to send a Thank You card. As such, I think your welcome bag Thank You is fine (if you can also thank them for coming in person – e.g. receiving line). I’m glad you are still going to send gift givers a Thank You card regardless.

    Post # 4
    9552 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think the thank you in the welcome bag and the thank you for gifts should be fine. No need for an additional thank you for attending.

    Post # 6
    2971 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i usually think it’s best to send thank you’s to everyone who attended the wedding- gift or no gift. but in your case, since you’re giving them thank you’s in the welcome bag, i think it’s ok to only send thank you cards to those who gave a gift.

    Post # 7
    5663 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @swisea01:  I’m an advocate of sending thank you notes for attending. Butin this situation, since you are writing a hand written thank you note PRE wedding I think that is totally fine for the non gift givers

    Post # 8
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    @swisea01:  You should never ben sending out a thanks for coming note after the wedding.

    Post # 10
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    @swisea01:  Well in polite society sending a thank you note for coming, can be seen a hint for a gift.  You’ve already thanked them at least twice, via your hospitality, and verbally at the event.  To send a card in the mail (especially since you’ve already also now included a thanks for coming in the welcome package) is way over kill.

    Post # 11
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I don’t plan to send thank you notes to people who don’t bring a gift. The reception is the thank you for attending the wedding, and notes go out for gifts. That’s how I see it anyway. 

    Post # 12
    257 posts
    Helper bee

    Oops I voted wrong because I misread. Since you are planning to send thank yous for gifts, you don’t need an additional thank you for coming.

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