Post # 1
I know what the Thank You card threads say, that you should always write your cards by hand. Summarizing some of the comments in this thread, printed cards means that you are lazy and that you don’t care about your guests.
Does this also apply if you’ve made the rest of the card? The thing is, I love DIY and I’ve crocheted these hearts for all the “Thank You Cards” for our family + bridal party. I’ve also lined the envelopes and cut out the tags to close the envelopes.
I’ve cut the inserts and up until that point I’m happy, but then comes the text… and I just don’t like to write – it always just turn out so ugly! Admitted, I could probably get it to look a little nicer if I spent more time on in… but at this point… eek! My clumsy handwriting just destroys it all!
Even at best, the lines are squiggly and uneven.
So I just really want to run it all through the printer! However, I don’t want to come across as rude or lazy… What do you bee’s think, can I get away with printed cards because I made everything else myself?
Post # 3
@eocenia: I think you should hand write them. Guests may not know that you DIYed the cards yourself (they are totally lovely by the way). Handwritten thank yous are just such a nice touch, and I know that I am always thrilled to receive a hand written thank you when I am a guest.
My hand writing is a ridiculous chicken scratch and my husband’s isn’t much better, haha! We are still hand writing our cards…my attitude is love me, love my hand writing!
ETA: hand no longer seems like an actual word, lol!
Post # 4
@eocenia: what you’ve already done is so lovely and thoughtful – please don’t ruin it by sticking printed inserts in there! I would skip trying to do the ‘fancy’ handwriting and just use your regular print. It WILL look better than computer printed, I promise!
Post # 5
I’m really on the “it really doesn’t matter” train, when it comes to hand writting vereses typed.
I just don’t care. Either way, if the card is as beautiful as that, and the message is specific to me, I would be thankful for it!
And I know some “ettiqutte snob” is going to tell you that thank yous HAVE to be hand written, and people will be offended if they’re not, but honestly, in this day and age, I can’t see people being offended over something so silly. And if you think you’ve got some older folks who may care, hand write theirs and type the rest.
Post # 6
I picked yes by accident because I thought you were asking if you should handwrite them…
But I agree with PPs, you should hand write the message inside. As long as it is legible I don’t think it is a big deal if your hand writing isn’t perfect.
Post # 7
My fiance has terrible handwriting, but I love seeing him hand write cards and thank you’s because you can see that it was from him. You cards look great and I don’t think anyone will judge you based on your writing. Handwritten cards are so much more genuine!
Post # 8
I also clicked yes because I thought the question was if you should handwrite them. So there’s another vote that should be for NO to printing the actual thank-you message.
Post # 9
If I receive a thank you note, I generally do not take note of whether it is handwritten or printed.
Post # 10
Yout don’t have to do fancy calligraphy (but I think it looks beautiful!) but yes you do need to hand write them.
Post # 11
@eocenia: I don’t think you have to. I think it’s a lovely, heartfelt touch, but I have never cared whether a thank you card/note I received was handwritten or not.
I personally handwrite my thank you notes, but it’s not for pretentious reasons…I use them to stay on top of my calligraphy and script skills. 😀
@FauxPas2012: “It shouldn’t be a uniform message to all.” <– +1 Now that would be lazy (printed or handwritten).
Post # 12
@eocenia: double post see below.
Post # 13
@eocenia: It shouldn’t be a uniform message to all.
But if you want to print them from the computer, that would be fine with me as a recipient. Then sign them with your hand.
You could use one generic paragraph or two, which is what many people do when writing thank you notes, something like:
I was so happy to see you at our wedding! I appreciate you being there, it was lovely to see you.
[insert non-generic message here such as “Thank you for the toaster we love it…”]
We had a great time at our wedding reception seeing family and friends. The love and support of everyone provided a wonderful start for our new married life. Thanks again!
Post # 14
@LilacViolet: Thank you for your feedback and sweet words! I guess your first point is a very valid one, it’s not like I’ll add a small sticker to them saying “Handmade by Eocenia”, while no one will mistake my handwriting for something fabric made… Sigh. It’s just that the perfectionist within cringes when I see the written part. I guess I have to learn to embrace your attitude!
@Weetzie: Thank you. Although you’re definitely on the wrong track regarding my normal handwriting being better then when I “try” to make it pretty! 🙂 Seriously, I think this is giving me such an head ache because I HAVE put in time and thought into them and it just feels like my handwriting ruins it all just at the finish line.
@cirk: I was on this train as well, until I checked wedding bee and realized it was a HUGE faux pas. Then hesitation set in… I’m particularly worried about FI’s family, my Swedish family won’t probably care – but I know his mum is very finicky with cards and everything around them.
@pixiecat: It wouldn’t be a problem if I wouldn’t be a perfectionist that just hates the fact that I can’t write nicely. Perhaps I should just put FI on card duty, then I don’t have to feel personally responsible for it! 🙂
@Amayansong: You’re right in that I don’t think anyone will judge me for how it’s written, except from me. I really find it painful to do that to the card.
@FutureMrsLAL: Sigh… I see where this is going… I was so hoping that I would get a pass! 🙂
@Bebealways: Me neither. However, after joining wedding bee I’ve realized this is a quite big issue and it’s been a bit of a chock! I’m thinking I might be a little more relaxed about these things because I’m Swedish, so I just really don’t want to end up in a situation where my FI’s family think I’m lazy…
@michiru4ever: I think I would feel better if I had a somewhat fluent hand writing, but it always looks so choppy. Argh.
Post # 15
@pixiecat: I agree and I also voted wrong.
OP, I think you should hand write–nobody is going to get it and think “OMG her handwriting is atrocious!”
Post # 16
@LilacViolet: whenever I write or type or say a word several times, I feel the same way! Like it’s not right anymore or something LOL
I think thank you cards should be handwritten. If someone came and celebrated your marriage and spent their day with you, AND got a gift, the least you can do is write it out with a pen. That’s just my opinion.
It doesn’t need to be handwriting, you can just print it – that may look neater if your handwriting is choppy/messy. I had my husband write most of them, I just told him what to say. His writing is beautiful.