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    Miss2Mrs    July 2, 2010   New Jersey

    I just don't understand the point of having a guest book. I can't ever remember signing one before at any of the weddings I have been to.

    Do you have one?

    What is the need for it?

    If I should have one -can I DIY it?

     
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    Miss Olive    February 20, 2011   Albany, NY

    Do whatever you want!  I'm not planning on having a guest book.  I just don't know what I would do with it later.  We are either going to have a photobooth and then frame the photos of our guests...i can't find the inspiration for that right now!

    or a silhouette artist and frame those, like this (http://www.marthastewartweddings.com/photogallery/15-years-of-great-wedding-ideas?lpgStart=1&currentslide=9&currentChapter=1#ms-global-breadcrumbs)!

     
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    LadyGoodman    September 25, 2010   Baltimore, MD

    I'm also pretty torn about having a guest book.  I am leaning towards us not having one . . . most of my friends who had one said that they never look back and read the notes and not everyone even left notes. 

    If we do one, I think we're going to use it as a time capsule . . . put in a nice bottle of wine, a love letter to one another, some mementos from our day and the notes from the guest book and put it all in a nice box to open on our 5 year anniversary.

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    I don't think it's required at all. I personally love the idea of having notes from friends and family to read 20 years after the wedding. I've read my parents' guest book and it was really special to see all those well-wishes. Maybe I'm just sentimental like that :) 

    If you don't want to have an actual book, there are a ton of possibilities. We got a suitcase and will also be getting travel-themed stickers that people can write notes on and stick them on the suitcase :)

     
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    michelle86    April 17, 2010   Saint Paul, Minnesota

    We decided not to have a traditional guest book.  I found small books (set of 8 books) at Hallmark that have space for each person to write their name, how they know us, and a wish for us.  We plan on putting one on each table.

     
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    Blueshoes2    June 2010   PA

    @ladygoodman, I love that time capsule idea!

    We're probably going to do a signature frame with one of our engagement pics.  I'm not really sure what we'd do with a guestbook either.  At least the signature frame can be hung up and displayed :)

     
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    grace8367    September 6, 2009   Chicago

    We didn't have one.  Primarily because I don't like them myself.  I always felt like there were better ways to remember who was at your wedding and as a guest I didn't like being put on the spot to come up with a shortened version of my well wishes for the couple.  I've seen some different ideas that are cute though, I just don't think they're a "have to have".

     
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    LindseyMarie52    May 29, 2010   San Diego, CA

    You don't have to have one and a guestbook with a bunch of signatures is well...boring. There are a lot of creative things you can do instead of just having a book layed out. What i did is had a 12x12 photobook made from shutterfly that had pictures of FI and I and told our "love story" leaving plenty of room for people to write on all the pages...next to the book I made a sign requesting our guests to leave a memory, advice or a short message. Something that we can look back on and remember who we celebrated our special day with and read memories and advice (also, the book has great pictres of us throughout our relationship, added bonus!)

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    You don't have to have a guestbook at all! We're doing "Wish and Advice" cards á la Mrs Cupcake (and many other Bees!). I'm really excited to see what people write!

     
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    elliemae    November 2010   Mississippi

    Im one of those who dont like to clutter. I never know what to do with something like that. Last year i helped a friend out at her wedding and i greeted guests and instructed them to sign the guest book, and i got to thinking, how cool would it be if i could have each person write some advice or anything else, then put those little notes in a book next to that guest's picture from the party if available. Yea it would be in your home, but how sentimental would it be when you open it and you can actually see pictures of your day. The pictures dont even have to be the pro ones. This could be a great idea to use those little disposable cameras. Just a thought.

     
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    mountain.bride    December 12, 2009   Australia

    We didn't have one, most weddings I've been to didn't although I've seen a few. Personally as we got a card from most guests, we still have lovely notes from our friends and families in that form which I love bc it's great to see the different cards people have chosen.

     
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    Selene221    October 31, 2012  

    It's totally optional. Most people don't sign it anyway. The books that you do buy are 50 pages of lines and the first page is the only one that gets used. Having a guestbook attendant (which is not an honor for anyone) doesn't change people's minds if they have no desire to sign it in the first place. If you don't feel the need for one, then it is perfectly ok to skip it.

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    Guest books aren't required.

    I purchased a very nice frame from Michaels and I am going to use a double mat in our colors and have the guests sign that. We will have one of our engagement photos in the mat while they are signing and then it will be displayed at our reception. I purchased a wrought iron stand for it too. After the wedding, we will put a picture of everyone that was at the wedding in it and hang it on the wall. I already have the space picked out.

     
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    northernazbride    August 1, 2009   Arizona

    We didn't have one... I liked the idea of a wish tree, but that didn't happen either. I'm not bummed that we didn't have one. The most important part (for me) is having the pictures of everyone.

     
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    MrsJKH2be    October 2010  

    We aren't doing a guestbook...who wants a book of signatures? 

    We are putting out a bunch of scrapbooking things (markers, card stock, stickers, etc..) so people can do fun thngs (write notes, draw a picture, whatever).  We will then be putting it all together in a scrapbook.

    I like the photobooth idea.  Also, You can have a tree w/ tags attached which people can write "wishes" on it.  I've seen this displayed in people's homes before and its beautiful.  (i can find a picture if needed).  Also, check out www.guestbookstore.com.  It's got some fun guestbook pages that your guests fill in during the reception and then later on you make it into a book - my cousin did this and it was vey interesting to read what people wrote once the drinks started flowing!

     
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    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

    We aren't having a traditional guest book - I'm making a "wish tree" that people will fill out! It will double as part of my reception decor...so it is dual purpose!

     
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    roxy821    August 21, 2010  

    I am not doing a traditional guest book. I feel the same way that most of the other girls do because when will I ever look at a book with a list of people's names.

    I am actually having a wedding quilt made. On the place setting of each guests there will be a fabric square and a pen. Each guest can write a little note or piece of advice. After the wedding my grandmother is going to make a quilt out of all of the squares, most likely using the center for all of the guests squares and the rest will be whatever color/material we chose.

     
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    WDWBride    March 3, 2010   Walt Disney World

    We aren't doing a traditional guest book either. I felt it would just be a dust collector.

    We did a take on the Quaker marriage license and are going to have our guests sign that and frame it and hang it up. I'm really excited about it and it was easy to order through Zazzle.

     
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    Laylabelle    November 7, 2009  

    We didn't want a guestbook b/c we seriously doubted we would ever sit down and actually go through it or even remember where we put it, but we did like the idea of little notes written to us. So we picked out three records (vinyl albums) that we liked (I collect these and frame them and hang them on my office walls) and have everyone "autograph" them, then framed them.

     
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    thefuturemrsgibbs    June 12, 2010   Northern California

    Yes you need one. If you want to follow all of the wedding traditions. I got this straight out of my wedding planner:

    Signing the guest book

    Your wedding guests are official witnesses to the covenant. By signing the guest book, they are saying, "I have witnessed the vows, and I will testify to the reality of this marriage." Because of the significance, the guest book should be signed after the wedding rather than before it.

    And Yes you can DIY wedding guest book.

     
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    Johnitta    May 15, 2010   Tallahassee/Panama City, Fla

    It would be a great memory for you and FI. As described in an earlier post, my FI and I are going to frame our favorite engagement picture and use the mat for a guest book. It's nice to be able to look back on the memory!

    We are also doing a 'Blessing Tree' which will allow our guests to write blessing, comments or suggestions to us.

     
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    CinnamonStick    May 14, 2010   Gettysburg, PA

    I was torn on the idea of a guest book for a while- having a list of names just seemed superfluous... But I did want somewhere where people could leave wishes and things that are/were a bit more personal. I'm still not sure if I'll follow through with my idea, but I'm planning on getting an unlined journal and a polaroid pogo... as well as stickers, markers and scrapbooking paper and asking each guest to create a page for us with their picture and whatever else they want to add :)

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    We also didn't do the traditional guest book. We ordered something called a "Blessing Tree" from a website for guests to sign. We now have it hanging in our dining room! It's just a really nice reminder of how many people loved us to come to our wedding. Not everyone signed it, but if I noticed that someone didn't sign it, I signed their name in a leaf. It was really cute and I'm so glad we have it now!

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    strawberrychamp    October 21, 2008   Halifax, NS

    I searched and searched for the perfect guest book for our wedding, I spent so much time on this it was unbelieveable, I wanted it to be just right.  Then when the wedding day came it was the last thing on my mind and so it got stuck on one person's table and hardly anyone signed it!  In hindsight I would have got one of my bridesmaids to take it around and make sure everyone signed it, but I haven't looked at it in over two years (I don't even know where it is!)  I would probably go for the time capsule or photo booth idea, this would probably be something that you would treasue and look back on.

    People write such lovely sentiments in your wedding cards too, maybe you could make a scrapbook of these.

     
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    cutarts    July 10, 2000   Los Angeles

    When my husband does silhouettes at weddings, he cuts two so that one can go in a guest book.  The guest then writes a personal note to the bride and groom under their silhouette.  It is a great keepsake!

     
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    otb    December 31, 2009   Chicago, IL

    I didn't have a guest book.  I had a little recipe box and guests could write us a note than file it under their name!  I plan on putting them in our wedding scrapbook.

     
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    Farfromachildbride    March, 2010   Boston

    I bought our guest book from Rag & Bone - http://www.ragandbonebindery.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=12

    I like their cover designs MUCH better than the "bridal" types you find at the card shop or bridal salon.  They offer lined or unlined pages.  We're going with the latter so people can leave a little message if they like.  It's definitely not necessary but I think it's a "nice to do."   But then I'm a sap that won't part with my old yearbooks that school friends all signed... :)

     
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    Dancy905    February 5, 2010  

    We're not having one and erm, we're not having anything really.

    I agree that most people don't sign them or write anything and a lot of the messages tend to be the same old "best wishes" "You guys rule!", etc. I've only signed a few - one was a skateboard, another was a surfboard - something like that would be cool & different. Other than that, I kinda feel like when I sign them - it's like when you sign the guest book at a wake. Not the feeling I'm going for.

    @ 2PeasinaPod - that tree is a really good idea too. I like it because it's different too.

     
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    rachelss    August 22, 2010   Fort Collins, CO

    We're having a thumbprint tree like this http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php?listing_id=40207373 - I think it will look nice next to our ketubah.

     

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