Do I really need a Wedding Day Coordinator?

posted 10 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

If there is one thing I wish I would have had, it was a day-off coordinator-and I had a small wedding (50 guests, including bridal party).  Husband-to-be ended up wearing that hat, and while he was great, I wish he would have been able to relax.  I would not have had a friend do it, my friends wanted to be with me, getting ready and fussing over hair and make-up.  If you are going to use a friend, make it one you aren’t really close to, but someone who cares if your wedding goes well.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

A big consideration is how big your wedding is and how many things need to be set up.  If you have a lot of details to your wedding or many locations involved, i would definitely recommend you get a DOC. 

Post # 5
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33 posts
Newbee

I thought I wouldn’t need one until I actually sat down and drew out a timeline of the day’s events.  Everything from setting up the reserved seating signs to how long it takes me to shower!  The list was longer than the hours in the day, so I hired a former employee to be my DOC.  I’ve worked with her and trust her judgement completely so it was a no brainer since she wouldn’t otherwise have been invited to the ceremony! Bonus: she’s bringing along a friend as extra hands for nothing! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

you need one. every bride does. designating to a friend can strain the relationship and is A LOT TO PUT ON SOMEONE, no matter how small the wedding.

There are so many logistics that go on at a wedding. It’s a pain having people come up to you for answers when you should be enjoying your day. Spend the cash and get a coordinator. It is worth the investment. It was the first thing I did and I am so happy I did because not only can I now relax, but so can my mom and girlfriends!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Originally, I wasn’t planning on having one, but similar to what Liz said above, I realized that I needed one after I sat down to look at what I would need set up at the reception. There are so many little things that need to be done, and I really want us, our bridal party, and families to relaxon that day. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

The wiki has some links to why some of the Bees have hired DOCs: http://wiki.weddingbee.com/Day_of_coordinator

We were going to hire a DOC, but hired a full planner instead (the price was right). The ability to relax on that day is worth every penny to me and my family.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2007

I didn’t have one & my wedding had about 100 guests. Our reception venue was top notch and took care of everything on their end, for everything else I enlisted cousins to help (bring the flowers from my house to church, etc). 

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I wouldn’t say that every bride needs a coordinator.  We had a small wedding (40 people), kept everything simple, and let the day flow as it would.  A coordinator would’ve been wasted on me.

That said, if you feel like you need someone to coordinate the day, hire someone- don’t make a friend do it since it would probably be a lot to ask.  A relative, maybe, if they volunteer.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Hiring a day of coordinator can really help reduce your stress level on your wedding day but it is not absolutely necessary.  Make sure to interview several vendors and contact their references.  Definitely meet them in person if possible.  We were planning from out of state and had to hire many of our vendors sight unseen. 

I was determined to hire a DOC so my family and I could relax (230+ guests).  I just wished I would have been more careful with my selection.  We hired a day of coordination team (husband/wife) and although our reception looked beautiful they really dropped the ball on some things that I unfortunately caught wind of and stressed over.  I was so particular with my other vendors but slacked on the DOC selection and got what I paid for… 

Best of luck to you!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

I didn’t need one.  Our wedding was 150 guests.  I had very few DIYs.  My DJ handled a lot of it, along with the florist, venue, and priest at the church.  Nobody in my wedding party or my family had to "play" DOC.  It depends on how much day of stuff you have.  Actually in my area I haven’t met anybody that uses one.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland

I think that it really depends.  How much will your venue do for you?  If you are going the more DIY route (bringing in your own decor and setting it up yourself) then I think it might be valuable to hire one.  If you are going less DIY (having a florist do centerpieces, having the site coordinator set things up) then I don’t think there is any need to hire a day of coordinator.

Post # 15
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Worker bee

I think if you hire a dj that is used to doing weddings he will handle the timeline of the reception and make things flow and as far as the ceremony, get a friend to help out that is married and has been through it. I just asked a friend and she is so honored and I know she will make sure we walk down the aisle at the right moment and if the florist is running late she can handle it hte day of. Save your money for some place else!

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2008

It depends on how detailed and planned out your wedding is going to be.

I have a day of coordinator, but since I am the type of bride to be super organized and super detailed, she won’t have a problem following the schedule that I’ve made for her. If your friend can boss people around and make sure everything is good to go even when there are last minute changes, then she should be fine! 🙂 

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