Post # 1
FI is totally against it, he thinks they are cheesy and annoying and no one goes to them anyway. He refuses to use them for the rsvp, and that was pretty much the only reason I was going to use one besides giving registry info. I’ve set up a couple of templates but theyre very bare since we’re not making an About Us page or a wedding party page, and now it seems like it’s not worth it at all. But we’re sending out our save the dates soon (like yesterday this should have been done!) so I feel like I need to make this decision now. I haven’t seen many posts about this on the boards, if at all, so I’m wondering if anyone here is bothering to do one? I’ll feel better about not doing it at all if there are some girls behind me on this, but because of all the websites offering to do them I feel like it has to be done.
Post # 3
I’m not. I don’t think they’re necessary!
Post # 4
Will a lot of your guests be coming from out of town?
I feel like a wedding website is a good location to post information about traveling to the area, things to do in the area for out of town guests, as well as the usual weather/climate at the time of your wedding.
That way you can keep the site updated with information about places to stay/things to do, rather than have to put it all in an invitation together.
Post # 5
i’m not having one either i feel they a bit too self-congratulatory.. no offense to those who have them
Post # 6
You totally don’t have to do one. We decided to do one, but are not hosting it on a wedding site that has all those crappy flowery templates. We just made a Google Site for it – totally free and fairly simple to do if you are reasonably tech savvy.
Ours has a “guest book” which is really just a Google Doc for people to fill out with their address and contact info so that we can send them STDs, invites, thank yous. A lot easier than soliciting individual people for addresses, writing them by hand, and transferring to a spreadsheet.
Post # 7
@bells: I agree on the “self congratulatory” part. We’re doing one because the wedding is a DW and the only person local to the wedding is FMIL.
We want to have a place people can go to read about hotel options, day of schedule, what to do in the area, reccomended travel plans, and “unoffical” events that may be happening prior to and after the wedding since FI and I will be up there for a week.
I am trying to work ona template for one right now, and am skiping over a lot of the “about the bride”, “about the groom”, “how we met”, “the proposal”, etc because everyone who is invited knows this stuff already.
Post # 8
We didn’t do one, and honestly every wedding I have ever been too, I have never once even looked at a wedding website.
I honestly don’t really understand what the point of them is.
Post # 9
Girl, most of our guests came from out of town, so I figured this would be an excellent resource. I slaved over it for HOURS and HOURS. I’d say about 5% of the guests actually looked at it. Don’t waste your time.
Post # 10
I made one at mywedding.com… it was pretty easy… I didn’t spend hours and hours on it. Since a lot of our guests are coming from out of town, I’m going to put directions and hotel info on there. From the family members that have looked at it, and haven’t met FI or seen me in a while, they said they really liked it. I put pics up from when we first started dating to present…so it was fun to see how things have changed in the last 5 years. Also, since we’re doing a couple things non traditionally at our wedding, it gave me a chance to kind of put it out there, and explain why we were doing things a certain way.
Post # 11
I have to say, I really like when couples have a wedding websites. I even like the “about the couple” and blog pages. With so many of my dear friends living far away, I feel like a website is a nice way to stay connected and share their excitment. Also, as a person who loses papers all the time, I like being able to print things out easily.
That being said, I am hesitant about doing one for myself for all the reasons people have stated above, although I do love the idea of a google site…
Post # 12
We did one on mywedding.com as well and I liked doing it. I hadnt met a lot of DHs family/family friends and same for him with mine. Hopefully it was a way for them to learn a little about us. Also, ours was a DW for 95% of guests so I hope it was helpful to them in making their plans and keeping them updated! I dont think its necessary though!
Post # 13
Although my FI and I are doing one I kind of agree with bells. If you’re not careful they come across as too self-congratulatory. We are getting married an hour away from where we live so technically everyone at our wedding will be from out of town. We are strictly using ours for directions and hotel information since it would cost us more in postage to include all of the info with our invitations. It helps to save money wherever you can!
Post # 14
@KatNYC2011: Some will be, but it’s like 20% of guests will be traveling out of town, and maybe 5% haven’t traveled or lived there previously. If I do set one up, it will be extremely simple with just travel information and hotels. We’re barely registering so I’m not even sure I want to include that. But our out of town guests are very out of town, like from Ireland. So I wonder if I should include a separate slip of paper with the STD so that they can have this information? They can’t be getting the travel info 8-12 weeks before, I want to give them more time than that.
Post # 15
@arenyth: If only a very small percentage of your guests have never been to the area, then a website probably isn’t needed. Sticking that info on lodging, travel, etc into the save the date is probably the best plan.
Post # 16
We’re doing one (even though most guests are local). We just know a lot of our guests are big on internet anything, so we put a bunch of photos on their and we’ll put the info about the wedding on there as well as registry info since that’s the only place we could think to post it. We won’t be having showers or parties or anything before the wedding and we won’t be doing a standard registry…it may help with clearing up questions for us…but I’m sure there are going to be plenty of people who find it tacky! Oh well…