Post # 1
I have been back and forth forever about wedding,no wedding, eloping and all. After having a long talk with my FI we are going ahead with the wedding we have been planning which is 5 months away. YAY! Anyways, we are only having about 75 people and it seems to me that alot of things are not absolutely necessary but I am unsure. Please help because I honestly have no idea! Here are some of the things I am questioning. Do you have to have place cards/assigned seating at reception, more than 1 type of meat, favors, chair covers? I want it to be nice and our venue is very unique and all inclusive, but I don’t know if these things are must or if my wedding would be tacky without them! Please give me your opinion. Thanks bees!
Post # 3
Definitely assign seats – it’ll be chaos/people will get stuck with awkward conversations if you don’t. I would recommend 2 entrees at least – we had 1 meat, 1 vegetarian. It’s about making your guests comfortable, not juat about how little work to put in ;-). Chair covers are not necessary nd are kind of ugly, IMO. Go with what feels natural and good to you – you can’t miss!
Post # 4
I don’t think any of those make a wedding “nice” necessarily. I had a nice wedding without two meat choices and chair covers….a friend of mine had a lovely wedding with appetizers, no arranged seating, and no covers….plenty of weddings i attend have no favors. I wouldn’t rely on these things making or breaking your wedding.
Post # 5
Thanks so much for the advice! Its not really wanting to put in less work, its just wanting to keep things as simple as possible because we have a smaller number of guests. I wasn’t sure about the seating because I figured most people would just sit with who they know, but you are probably right!
Post # 6
@ejs4y8: Thank you, I just havent been to a ton of weddings and I’m not exactly sure what people are expecting.I know everyone has a different opinion, but I really do want the wedding to be a success!
Post # 7
The only thing on that list that I think it really needed is different menu choices. Some people don’t eat chicken or beef or fish, whatever so they need a different option. I know not everyone will agree with me about the assigned seating but we didn’t have it and it was fine. No mass hysteria, no people fighting over chairs.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2010 - Parents' backyard
Ok, reading comprehension fail, I thought you were asking about what you DID need. I picked assigned seating because as crayfish said, without assigned seating I think it can get uncomfortable and chaotic for everyone. I did not have chair covers, and while I had favors they were simple little treats. We had more than one entree choice (beef and chicken) and a vegetarian option but BBQ at weddings is becoming so popular nowadays. Honestly, I think everything is completely subjective and you don’t “need” anything to have a “nice” wedding – just a warm heart, love, and good friends and family!
Post # 9
I dont think you need any of those things to make it a nice wedding!
Post # 10
We didn’t assign seats, and everyone found one just fine. We had heavy appetizers only, and I got SO many compliments on the food. We donated to charity for favors, and we also didn’t have chair covers.
We also had a great reception 🙂
Post # 11
@Linz1231: Thanks thats very reassuring!
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: Food choice has been the toughest one for me. We were planning to do one meat, 3 sides, bread. But maybe we need to rethink that. I dont want people to feel forced into eating something or to not eat because they don’t like their choices.
@glasses: LOL at “reading comprehension fail.” And you are right about the things a wedding are reallyabout, I just want people to enjoy themselves and remember our wedding fondly!
Post # 12
I don’t think any of those are necessary to have a nice wedding.
Post # 13
I think part of it depends on personal opinion….
Best example: Some people swear by assigned seating, stating that it makes it less awkward and people don’t have to hunt for a table. But every time I’ve been to a wedding like this, I’ve been stuck at a table with people I didn’t know, and we end up pulling our chairs over to another table by after dinner so we can sit with the people we know. When we talked to our families about this, they were adamant that they would prefer NOT to have assigned seating.
For us, we will be doing a sweetheart table, 2 reserved wedding party tables (8 attendants, so that’s 2 tables for them and their spouses) and then 4-5 reserved family tables. The rest will be open seating.
I would definitely say to have at least 2 types of food, even if it’s not 2 meats. I say this because not everyone likes every type of meat, and lots of people prefer vegetarian dishes over the meat, even if they aren’t vegetarian. Example: My MOH only eats poultry and fish- any beef or pork makes her feel ill. She often opts for the veggie option, even if chicken is available.
As for favors, I think if you do decide to do them, go simple- people don’t want to keep a wine opener or beer coozie with your name on it. Candy or some other edible favor is enough to make people go “oh, look, a favor” without making them take home some overpriced thing they don’t need.
And as far as chair covers go, I would say that you should only use them if the available chairs look like crap. If they only have folding metal chairs, then yes, spring for the covers. If they have nice chairs that don’t conflict with your colors or the look of your wedding, leave them off. (Thank goodness for me, our venue got new white chairs recently… their old ones were yucky and with green fabric backs!)
Post # 14
I misunderstood the question too. I think the only thing you need is assigned seating. You don’t want families kind of prancing around not being able to find a seat. Everything else is optional.
Post # 15
I didn’t assign actual seats, but we did assign people to tables. So I voted that assigned actual seats is unnecessary. I also think you can do without chair covers, specialty linens, certain kinds of chairs, certain kinds of tables (head, sweetheart, etc), real flowers and many other details. It’s really up to you what’s important to you.
I do think it’s nice to allow two entree options (even if the second is the vegetarian option) just so guests can find something to eat. For instance, I don’t eat steak so I’d be a little stuck if that was the only option (it’s happened to me before and they didn’t even have a veggie back up, I ate mashed potatoes and green beans for dinner).
Post # 16
I personally did not consider having chair covers for a second, and also nixed the idea of favors pretty quickly too. I actually really dislike the way that chair covers look! I did have more than one entrée choice, but I do not think that is necessary at all. The one thing I do really like to have at a wedding is assigned tables, but plenty of people here have already made the argument for that.