Post # 1
First of all, I never thought about what a terrible word combo that is until I said it to a coworker and she started giggling.
We are having a relatively small wedding (70 people) and will probably only use the first 5 pews on each side tops. Part of the beauty of my church is its simplicity IMHO. The pews to do not have “arms” or really any place to hang or tack anything. They do not allow tape. Also, our wedding is next Saturday, so the altar will be full of loads of lilies.
My mother hits me today with her urgent need for pew bows. Frankly, I don’t really like them. I’d love to do something more creative, but we don’t have a coordinator and we have only limited time before the ceremony to put anything up. She thinks we need something to “set the joyful tone” since my aisle is brick and dark (we can’t have an aisle runner) and we aren’t having a traditional processional (FI and are are walking in together and my bridesmaids are all walking in with their escorts.). And where would I put these pew decorations? On the first few pews to highlight the fact that we aren’t using 80% of the church, or on all the pews to highlight the fact that we aren’t using 80% of the church?
So the question is – do I really need them? Is this a big deal? Is she going to remind me for the rest of my life that I didn’t have pew decorations so my wedding wasn’t joyful enough? I know I’ve completely lost my mind.
Post # 3
No you really don’t need them. We are not doing them and I find them a waste of money. We don’t even plan on decorating the church save for rememberance flowers and the unity candle
Post # 4
i don’t think you need them. If your mom wants to make it joyful she could maybe do something else? Really she is probably reacting out of nerves right now.
Post # 5
I think pew bows are old-fashioned – it used to be that was the only decoration down the aisle. With all the simple, natural beauty in your church, I would say NO to the pew bows.
Post # 6
I also don’t think they’re necessary. I never really remember if people had them or not; sometimes I’ll see the photos later online and see them and realize I didn’t even notice them during the ceremony! I doubt anyone will miss them if you skip it.
Post # 8
I agree, totally not neccessary. I don’t think any of your guests will be confused that this is a wedding if there aren’t any tulle bows on the seats. I think the big white dress will probably tip them off.
Post # 9
No. Something tells me there will be plenty of joy on your wedding day.
Post # 11
I was thinking of hanging those tissue poms off the isles but seriously I would say, “don’t do it girl,”
Post # 12
Yes, you have definitely hit the “crazy” time. Hang in there, it’s almost over. You certainly don’t need them.
Post # 13
You don’t need anything but you might want to consider doiing something to appease your mom.
You could do just two pomanders to place on the floor at the start of the aisle.
Something like this using your color scheme
Post # 14
I don’t want to use them, I have never really liked them and most churches are beautiful as they are.
Post # 15
Im glad I came across this. I am getting married in a very beautiful church (marble floors, huge stained glass windows). I could not decide weather or not to decorate the pews. I was thinking of doing these big elaborate decorations. A friend of a family member recentely got married in the same church and only did two small alter arrangements (required by the church), and I absolutely loved it. All the attention was on the bride, I didnt even notice the pews were not decorated. After seeing her wedding, and reading these posts, I have chose not to decorate the pews. It’ll save me time, money, and stress!! LOL
Post # 16
Since your flooring was brick, how was it walking on them? I am in the middle about aisle runners, i dont want to use them because I feel like they are flimsy so we were thinking about renting carpet to walk down on instead but it is expensive. The only reason I was thinking about carpet is because I am worried about bridesmaids or I tripping between the cracks on the brick. Your opinons is greatly appreciated!