(Closed) Do I really need STDs?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If your wedding is on a week day they are handy for people to book the time off work that is the only reason I sent them If my wedding was on a weekend I wouldnt have

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You can skip them if you want.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m in my 40s, and I think I’ve only received three save-the-date notices in my entire life. The first time I had even heard of the concept was about four and a half years ago for a very close friend’s wedding. 

Once I was engaged, I decided NOT to send STDs, not only because I did not think they were necessary, but also — and most important — because I did not want to have to finalize my guest list that far in advance of my wedding.

I think you’ll be fine without them.

Post # 6
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Honey bee

Doesnt sound like you need them. Its more for weddings where people have to plan ahead and book flights/hotels etc.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

STD are usually for people who have a lot of OOT guest who will need to be traveling, People who are having a destination or OOT wedding or people who are getting married not on a weekend or are getting married on a very popular day like a holiday.

Otherwise you dont need them

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d never even heard of them until I joined this site. I’ve never known anyone who did them, I didn’t.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

No. You don’t need them — and it is both wiser and more gracious NOT to have them.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I didn’t do them and nobody said they missed not getting them so I think you’re okay with skipping them!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I also never heard of them until I joined the site, and I was wondering the same thing, because it seems like so many people do them. But out of the last 10 weddings I’ve been to, I only received one STD, which was for a destination wedding.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Unless you’re getting married on a holiday weekend or a destination then I don’t think STD’s are essential.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I probably should add to my comment above that our wedding was, in essence, a DW for everyone, including me, since I and the majority of my friends all lived about 1.5 hours away from my venue, and DH and his friends lived three hours away in another state.  ALL of our family members and some of my friends were from out-of-state and traveled hundreds of miles to attend our wedding — and we were married on Friday night of Memorial Day Weekend — and we still didn’t send STDs.  However, we did mail our invitations about 11 weeks before the wedding (i.e. about eight weeks before the reply date.)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I immaturely chuckled at the title of this post. Heeh. FI and I are skipping the STD’s. We are having a small ceremony so we are just kind of spreading it by word of mouth and then sending out invitations. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

They are totally not necessary. We are doing them, though. We are sending them out next weekend for a September wedding. If you do choose to do them, I just ordered mine from vistaprint…$34.00 for for 100!

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