Post # 1
Most of my family and friend are from the area. Same with FI’s. My sister is getting married 9 months before me, and just sent out hers. A number of our family members (rude ones who don’t know how to keep their mouths shut) made comments about how they were unnecessary and a waste of money. FI and I are paying for pretty much everything for the wedding ourselves so anywhere we can save money without taking away from the overall experience of our wedding is great. So…are my rude family members right or just rude? Are STDs necesary in my situation or will not using them be a big mistake? Thanks Bees!
Post # 3
If your wedding is on a week day they are handy for people to book the time off work that is the only reason I sent them If my wedding was on a weekend I wouldnt have
Post # 4
You can skip them if you want.
Post # 5
I’m in my 40s, and I think I’ve only received three save-the-date notices in my entire life. The first time I had even heard of the concept was about four and a half years ago for a very close friend’s wedding.
Once I was engaged, I decided NOT to send STDs, not only because I did not think they were necessary, but also — and most important — because I did not want to have to finalize my guest list that far in advance of my wedding.
I think you’ll be fine without them.
Post # 6
Doesnt sound like you need them. Its more for weddings where people have to plan ahead and book flights/hotels etc.
Post # 7
STD are usually for people who have a lot of OOT guest who will need to be traveling, People who are having a destination or OOT wedding or people who are getting married not on a weekend or are getting married on a very popular day like a holiday.
Otherwise you dont need them
Post # 8
I’d never even heard of them until I joined this site. I’ve never known anyone who did them, I didn’t.
Post # 9
No. You don’t need them — and it is both wiser and more gracious NOT to have them.
Post # 10
I didn’t do them and nobody said they missed not getting them so I think you’re okay with skipping them!
Post # 11
I also never heard of them until I joined the site, and I was wondering the same thing, because it seems like so many people do them. But out of the last 10 weddings I’ve been to, I only received one STD, which was for a destination wedding.
Post # 12
Unless you’re getting married on a holiday weekend or a destination then I don’t think STD’s are essential.
Post # 13
I probably should add to my comment above that our wedding was, in essence, a DW for everyone, including me, since I and the majority of my friends all lived about 1.5 hours away from my venue, and DH and his friends lived three hours away in another state. ALL of our family members and some of my friends were from out-of-state and traveled hundreds of miles to attend our wedding — and we were married on Friday night of Memorial Day Weekend — and we still didn’t send STDs. However, we did mail our invitations about 11 weeks before the wedding (i.e. about eight weeks before the reply date.)
Post # 14
I immaturely chuckled at the title of this post. Heeh. FI and I are skipping the STD’s. We are having a small ceremony so we are just kind of spreading it by word of mouth and then sending out invitations.
Post # 15
They are totally not necessary. We are doing them, though. We are sending them out next weekend for a September wedding. If you do choose to do them, I just ordered mine from vistaprint…$34.00 for for 100!
Post # 16
@random7890: that’s okay…I immaturely chuckled when creating the post 😛