Post # 1
I am so ready to be married to my fiance –we have been together for 6 years and purchased a house together a little over a year ago. But, I don’t think I want a wedding anymore. I just want to sign the papers…
My family cancelled our family reunion/family cruise to come to our wedding, so I feel obligated to make it perfect.
I am going through so much right now.. nothing really big –I am very blessed and don’t want to complain too much– but I am dealing with depression and all kinds of drama at work. I can’t even wrap my head around all this planning in this short 5 months!! 🙁
Post # 3
Take a deep breath and a step back from planning for now. You shouldn’t be planning if you’re upset. Are you close with your mom or do you have any sisters you can talk to about this? Maybe they’ll be willing to help or have some alternative ideas that will be okay with you.
Here are some questions to consider:
-Will you regret not having a wedding?
-Are you having a wedding for you or for your family?
-Is postponing the wedding a viable option?
-Would a small wedding be a good alternative for you?
Post # 4
Are we the same people?
My partner & I have been together for nearly 7 years, and bought a house together at the end of ’09.
While my family hasn’t gone so far as to cancel any reunions or previous plans in lieu of our nuptials, I know what you mean about feeling like all you want to do is sign the papers and have it done so you’ll officially be family.
I’ve dealt with depression for years and it can be very difficult this time of year (seasonal affective disorder), making things seem worse off than they really are. if you want to PM me to talk, please feel free.
Post # 5
Depression is very real and I urge you to take care of yourself first and foremost. A wedding is for one day (+planning) your mental health is a lifetime. Prioritize. Good luck <<cyber hug>>
Post # 6
Hugs! I’m sorry you are feeling so pressured and obligated. It is good that you’re writing about it and getting it out of your system. I hope you can discuss your feelings further with a close loved one. Then, definitely give yourself a break from planning. You owe it to yourself to recharge and relax, so whatever that is for you, do it. Allow yourself the time to honor what you are feeling and release the tension inside. Those nagging feelings of obligation, work drama, all of that noise will quiet. Afterwards, you’ll be all the stronger, have more clarity, and be all the more ready to do what is best for you. Be kind to yourself and best wishes.