- 3 years ago
So I posted about this topic about a month ago here, but I want to bring it up again just to add some new information and get some opinions.
Just a quick backstory: I’m a School Psychology intern with a school district. There is this huge national convention every year put on by the National Association of School Psychs; this year it’s in DC. I’ll be going to this convention with my supervisor (the actual School Psych for the district I’m interning with). The school board is paying for everything. The board will pay for the hotel and convention fees up front, but my supervisor and I will have to pay for food and travel expenses up front and will be reimbursed later on. My supervisor will be driving her car (a 6 hour drive- she refuses to fly), so all I have to pay for up front will be my food costs. I’ve estimated to spend roughly $300 on food for the 6 day trip (we won’t have a fridge or mini kitchen in our hotel room).
Okay. So my supervisor always talks about how she is broke. She recently revealed to me that her electric bill last month was $600 for her tiny house. She has two kids- one who is 21, won’t finish his college degree (he needs 1 more class according to her), and doesn’t contribute to the household expenses; and another kid who’s a sophomore in high school. They have like 5 aquarium pets, which means lights, heat lamps, etc (plus 4 cats). I’m sorry if I’m not sympathetic, but don’t complain about your electric bill when you make a conscious decision to have these pets that run the damn thing up.
I just think she is terrible with money- doesn’t save, spends money to eat out for lunch and dinner, uses store credit cards to shop for clothes because she doesn’t have the cash, etc.
Anyway, the last few times we’ve talked about going to this convention, she has mentioned that she has no idea how she’s going to be able to pay for food and travel expenses. She said she’s going to either have to A) refinance one of her loans (personal loan, I’m assuming), B) take out a tax refund loan, or C) do both of these things in order to afford to eat at and travel to the convention.
It’s starting to get under my skin. I never wanted to go to this conference in the first place. It was assumed that I wanted to go and she got the board to approve the trip before asking me. I make a lot less money than she does and I’m going to have a hell of a time paying for this stuff up front too, but I don’t complain about it. I refuse to take out a loan to pay for the expenses. I’ll probably have to put it on my credit card. It’s not a huge deal, since we’ll be reimbursed, it’s a pain in the butt more than anything.
Also, we’ve had like 7 snow days this month, which means work is starting to really pile up. I’m on the verge (and so is she) of falling behind. I have more work due to my internship requirements, so my workload is almost double hers.
My question: Do I say something to her? Every time she complains about being broke, not knowing how she’ll pay for these things, etc, I just want to say “Well why the F are we going?” I’m having a really hard time biting my tongue, and I’m afraid the next time she makes one of those comments, I’m going to flip my shit.
What would you do?