Post # 1
My second cousin is getting married in June. It will be a small wedding, so I’m not invited. However, I’m getting married in September and he and his then wife will be invited. Should I send a small gift?
Post # 3
Why not? I received wedding gifts from friends and family that weren’t invited to the wedding. It’s a sweet gesture and lets the couple know that you are supporting them and sending your love even if you’re not invited. Send them a small gift to say congrats! But consider sending the gift close to the wedding date so that they don’t think you’re fishing for an invitation.
Post # 4
I would say only if you wanted to. If they don’t send an invite, you aren’t required to, but it would be nice!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
You’re totally not obligated to in any way whatsoever. If you feel like it, send one! I wouldn’t feel bad if I didn’t send one… you could send a card if you wanted.
Post # 6
Don’t feel like you have to but it seems that you want to, and I think they would be thankful. I do agree with scrapsoflife though. Make sure it is clear you are not fishing for an invite!
Post # 7
That’s a really nice gesture. Depending on the couple, you might try to keep it small. I know I’m having a small wedding and would probably get a little uncomfortable if someone who wasn’t invited bought us a gift. I would worry that I should have just invited them in the first place. However, I also tend to overthink things. I think a gift would be wonderful if you want to give one. 🙂
Post # 8
It would be very sweet of you, but I think you are perfectly free not to if so inclined. You’re very thoughtful!
Post # 9
It is always okay to give gifts (for the most part). I say go for it. I don’t think it will appear that you are looking for an invite, but I would suggest sending it on or close to the wedding date.
Post # 10
I agree with everyone else that you aren’t required to since you didn’t get an invite but it would be a nice gesture. However are you sending them a gift b/c you are inviting them to your wedding and would like a gift from them in return?
Post # 11
That would be really nice of you. Since they are having a small wedding they might also have a need for the gift (or maybe not). Maybe just a card congratulating them or something small.