Do I send a gift?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2209 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Anna10-05-2014:  Only if you want to.  I probably wouldn’t, unless I was very close with the bride.

Post # 6
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t! Especially since you JUST heard about it!

Post # 7
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Anna10-05-2014:  My general policy is that I can’t attend a shower for whatever reason, I’ll just spend a little more on the wedding gift. You aren’t obligated to give a gift for the shower. 

Post # 8
957 posts
Busy bee

@Anna10-05-2014:  You’re not a bridesmaid? If you were a bridesmaid, I’d probably send a gift. But that’s just me. Otherwise, I don’t think it’s necessary.

Post # 9
11614 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re never obligated to send a gift, and I’m sure she’ll get plenty of lingerie.  If you wanted to, you could always send a small gift card to where they’re registered at (not the lingerie store, obviously) and mention how excited you are to celebrate at the wedding with them.  I would not do more than that though.

Post # 10
5432 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

If it’s someone that you don’t know very well (recently I was invited via Facebook to this big shower by someone I barely know and didn’t bother attending or sending a gift) then I think it’s fine not to get something. Especially since it’s something personal like lingerie.

If it was one of my friends (someone I talk to on a semi-regular basis) I would give a card within a couple days saying sorry I couldn’t make it and include a gift card to Victoria’s Secret or a similar store (: That way she can pick out some lingerie for herself and there’s not the risk of getting something too similar to something she already opened at the shower.

Post # 11
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Why do you think you HAVE to send a wedding gift to someone if you can’t make the wedding?

No-don’t send a gift. 

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