Post # 1
If you have a small wedding, but big reception do you still send out Save The Date cards or not?
I’ve been debating for the past week if I should make some STDs and send them to everyone, or just those being invited to the wedding, or not worry about it at all and just forget about them. I’m having a very small wedding ceremony with round-about 50 people, but then the reception is going to be round-about 200 people (if I didn’t forget anyone on the first guest list). I know with the STDs you normally put “formal invitation to follow” but if I do that, then will everyone assume they are invited to the actual ceremony until they get the invitation saying reception only? I just am not sure if I should send the STDs out because I don’t want to upset anyone if they are thinking they are going to be invited to the ceremony and then just get an invite to the reception. I can’t stand to hurt someone’s feelings like that!
I need some advice!!! PLEASE!
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
The purpose of a save the date card is to give people a heads up that you will be inviting them to something on that date. That way they don’t make other plans. So if you want them to hold your date, you need to let them know somehow. Whether you want to use cards, an e-vite, a facebook event, or some other communication tool is up to you.
If you choose to send something, you may want to carefully consider your wording. Focus more on the celebration party/reception aspect, since that is what 75% of your guests are really saving the date for.
Post # 4
I did not send save the dates and had mix feelings about it at the time since I had out of town guests. However, looking back I am so glad I did not waste money on them. I would put the money somewhere else
Post # 5
I am actually doing the same thing. We are sending out save the dates to everyone. We are opting out of the wording “formal invitation to follow”. But we are still sending out invites for just the reception itself.