Post # 1
So I was playing around on Etsy. Definitely not looking at rings. Why would I look at rings? pssht….
…. So I was looking at rings on Etsy … and I found the ring of my dreams! It’s almost nothing like what I thought I wanted.
I’ve shown him so many over the years that I’m sure I will drive him crazy if I show him.
Our fifth anniversary was two days ago – I wasn’t expecting a proposal, nor did I get one. I know he’s been stressed that I want to get engaged and he feels like he’s in the wrong place for an engagement right now. He’s a really sensitive person, and I don’t want to stress him out more.
But at the same time, I know it’s coming …eventually. We’re pretty open about that. But do I show him, or let it pass?
Post # 3
I would show him but explain ‘I don’t mean any pressure because I know you’ll propose when the time is right but I wanted to show you this ring because I really think it’s what I want.’
Post # 4
@MaybeEventually: Show him. You dont have to make a big production of it, but at least shoot him the link to give him a heads up.
We picked out my ring months ago, but on Friday I found one that I liked and was slightly less expensive. I wasnt sure whether to show him or not, but i’m glad I did: he really liked it and now we are moving forward with ordering it!
Post # 5
I agree with PP, I think you should show him because it’s different than what you have shown him in the past. You can just say “ok, I know you’re going to think I’m crazy and you’re probably tired of seeing rings, but I have to show you this one because it is so much different than all the others I have showed you and I think it’s what I really want. I don’t mean to put pressure on you, I just wanted you to know that I think I have changed my mind.” …or something along those lines. Then send him the link, and never speak of it again 🙂
Post # 6
@MaybeEventually: Well, if he’s not interested in pursuing engagement right now, and he may not be for quite some time, that particular ring may not even still be available when he is.
However, if you love the style, I would suggest that you save the image to a file in your computer and then, if you still love it when you believe your SO is more ready to consider engagement, you can always show him the style at that time.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
If you know he is stressed about your desire to get engaged, sending him information on an engagement ring is not going to help the situation. Put yourself in his shoes.
Post # 8
I agree with Brielle. If he isn’t open to proposing to you now there’s no need to show him the picture. He will ask when he wants to know what kind of ring you prefer. Keep the pic for yourself for future reference.