Post # 1
So, I’ve worked really hard on some of my DIY projects for the wedding, and I’m really pleased with the way they’ve turned out. I have a few of them below for you to see.
Every time I show them to my mom she is just overflowing with praise about how great they are, but what I’ve shown to my FMIL is met by "how nice, but couldn’t you have bought that professionally made?"
The answer is, yes, I could have, and I could have bought it within budget, but I wanted to MAKE it.
So a few months ago she was asking about programs and I told her that I intended to make them myself. I had a cover design which I showed her (a wordle of our names and wedding vows). She kind of turned her nose up at it and didn’t bring it up again.
As it turns out, she went over my head and asked FI’s cousin, a graphic designer, to do the programs for us. I got a call from the cousin saying how excited she was to do them and asking all sorts of questions and I was so taken aback that I just am letting her do them, because I didn’t have the heart to tell her I wanted to make them. But I was excited about making them myself, and I’m really disappointed that I can’t. Honestly my self esteem about my other projects is kind of damaged now, because I worry that my in-laws will look down on them…
Are they horrible? Should I have them done professionally? Below are my ring bearer pillow, flower girl pomander, and favor bags… just a sample of things I’ve done…
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Post # 3
They are NOT horrible, they’re great! It sounds as if perhaps your FMIL is more concerned with "appearances" than about your wedding being an expression of who you and your FI are. She need not worry though because from what I see, those DIY’s would stand up to the most discerning eye. Don’t let her get you down!
Post # 4
Before even reading the post I was going to say B*#$% and the reason is, it is your wedding, if you have ask if someone is being a less than respectful participant, um, my instinct is to say YES.
However, after looking at your projects, my conclusions is YES, of course she is being a B*&^%$
These look AMAZING!!!
you clearly have talent in the design and creating category.
keep up the great work.
Post # 5
Wanted to add: it stinks that she went over your head on the programs. Make sure your cousin designs EXACTLY what you want, that way even if you didn’t get to make them, you can at least be completely happy with the end result.
Post # 6
I think they look fabulous. I wouldn’t worry about it, if you can, just let whatever she says slide off.
I recently was daydreaming about creating an etsy store for Gocco’d wedding invitations, and I was asking myself, why would someone pay me to make their invitations if they could do the same thing themselves? And then it dawned on me… not everyone is a DIY kind of person. There are tons of people, if not the majority of our society, that would MUCH rather pay someone to do something for them than lift a finger to do it themselves.
Your FMIL is probably just one of those people.
And, by the way, I would love to see your wordle program design! Please share!!!
Post # 7
those look great! i especially like the pillow. it sucks that your FMIL is being so snooty & you’re really a bigger person than I am when it comes to letting someone take over your project. If I’d had my heart set on doing something & someone gave it away, I would’ve freaked out.
Maybe you can avoid telling her about your other projects and then ignore her responses when they eventually come. At the end of the day, you’re happy that you made special things for your wedding & you’ll be happy everytime you see pictures and think about the fun you had creating stuff!
Post # 8
omg they look fab! sorry your FMIL is being a huge Bia!! What’s her deal anyways? I got negative responses for doing my own stuff. "oh it’ll look sketchy" or "oh i was skeptical" etc. But it looks great!
If she says something again, just tell her "oh but it means so much more to have things handmade than just handing over money for wedding stuff…ANYBODY can do THAT" haha.
Post # 9
To the person who asked about the program covers, here was my design.
Thanks for all the kind words!! Weddingbee always has a way of making you feel better!
Post # 10
Your fmil is inded a B!%@$!! Your diy is awesome I think the favor bags are my favorite!! That is really nice of you letting the cousin make the programs but let that be the last and only time fmil will get her way. I think that your diy is awesome and don’t let her comments get you down. I agree just don’t share this diy info or just say you bought it, and then when she says she likes it tell her you made it!
Post # 11
For some reason it won’t show the complete image, but you get the idea!
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
no way, your projects are awesome and MUCH better than what you could "just buy"!
Post # 13
I love it all. Do what you want and tell your cousin specifics. And then don’t tell your FMIL about any of it and she’ll never know what you paid for and what you made yourself!
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp
Umm your FMIL is crazy (all respects intended 😉 )
Your DIY project rocks! I think you did a GREAT job! Maybe she was just thinking about other things and couldn’t be bothered to care at the time.
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery
Amadopolis these projects ROCK! I agree w/ Lorienne, that perhaps she is too worried about what ppl might say. Personally I think those ppl would agree that the things you made are GREAT 🙂
Post # 16
Those projects are adorable. There is absolutely no reason for her to be snooty about them. As for the programs, did your FI at least call his mom out for that? I’m just wondering how you know she won’t pull something similar again.
Keep up the good work. She’ll have to deal.