- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Ok bees, sorry to be away so long before updating on my previous post. As I said in my last post I had joined the hive because of all the good advice and support I’ve read in here. It certainly helped me make up my mind and do what I believed to be the right thing and so before going on, I want to thank you all for that.
So a few months back I decided I would tell my SO about something that happened when we first started seeing each other. (I won’t recap it here, just see my original post).
I decided I would tell him on a weekend afternoon when he got home after his basketball game. I even had an overnight bag packed, I had kind of planned for the worst.
After his shower he came out to the kitchen and knew straight away something was wrong.
I sat him down and told him the whole story, I tried my best not to cry but that didn’t work. He gave me a hug and stroked my hair for a long time. He was quiet and after a while he just asked a couple of questions. “Has there been any others since then and did I have any feelings for him?”
Well of course I reassured him and said that I only wanted him and how I wanted to start our marriage off right with nothing to hide. I even showed him my post (only a copy without any of your comments bees).
So at that point SO said he wanted some time to take it all in and think about it. I offered to leave and he looked at me like I was crazy and said for me to stay but just not talk about it anymore that night.
The rest of the weekend went by normally and I was starting to worry about if I should ask how he was going with it. Monday afternoon he came home from work and sat me down. He’d been doing a lot of research on the net and wanted to know if I would go see a couples therapist. I said yes straight away and we’ve had four sessions so far. Long story short the wedding is still on.
Some of the things that came out in therapy were over trust issues, which I think would be the hardest thing to have after giving SO that news. But when asked if he trusted me my SO said he does and isn’t concerned that much because I told the truth which he said was the main thing we should build our relationship on, honesty.
Thanks again bees for all your support!